Dr. Molly Barrow

The Official Dr. Molly Barrow Blog offers educational self help advice about relationships, business, dating, marriage, parenting, teenagers and children, self-esteem, love and romance. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D in psychology and is the author of Matchlines for Singles and the self-esteem adventure series, Malia and Teacup Awesome African Adventure and Malia and Teacup Out on a Limb. Dr. Molly is a relationship and psychology expert host on progressiveradionnetwork.com and television guest.

Monday, April 30, 2007

New Blogtalk Radio with Relationship Expert Dr. Molly Barrow

Dr. Molly Barrow has a new radio show, My Relationship Answers available to download or listen to live.

I Have a Talk Show

Dr. Barrow will establish a regular time for listeners to call in LIVE and ask questions. The first show is entitled Teach your Children to be Kind found under the Family category. Enjoy listening and please call in frequently with your questions or email them to drmolly@askdrmolly.com.
Go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com
Click on Family and then on Dr. Molly.

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff.

To purchase Matchlines book please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com

To read Dr. Molly Barrow daily blog: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

To hear Dr. Molly Barrow Radio Show My Relationship Answers: http://www.blogtalkradio.com

Sunday, April 29, 2007

Hurt So Bad? Five Tips to Recover. Relationship Expert Dr. Molly Barrow

When someone you love breaks your heart what can you do to help stop the pain? Here are five tips to lift up your chin and your smile.

1. Jot Down the Facts

Is the hurtful scene playing and replaying over and over in your mind? He said this. She did that. Take out a paper and pen and write down whatever is spinning in your mind. This technique works even with annoying songs and commercial jingles. The mind will clear a little and give you a break from painful memories. Continue to add to your writing each time as you remember new facts or feelings.

2. Breathe, Eat, Drink

When we get emotional, we stop breathing deeply. This signals your body to pump out adrenalin and other hormones that mess up the balance of your body. Ditto for thirst, so make an effort to drink tons of water to help remove your anxiety toxins. Even though you may have lost your appetite, try to eat with nutrition in mind not a pint of ice cream that will only make you feel worse. Animals in the wild go off alone, stop drinking water and eating when they are preparing to die. That instinct is not helping us recover right now, so fight it.

3. Burst into Tears

When painful feeling begin to strangle you, find a dark private place and cry hard, let your sobs be loud and your shoulders shake, wail and pound your fists. Soon you will feel better and begin to feel a bit overly dramatic. Then change the drama to comedy and laugh hard and loud in the face of the depression monster. (See why it is important to be alone for this?) The emotional switch helps your mind and body believe you are safe.

4. I am Sorry

Do you need to apologize? Does someone need to apologize to you? Pride gets in the way of many apologies so I would not hold your breath waiting for someone to apologize. If that person comes creeping back to you, obviously they are sorry they did or said whatever. Actions speak louder than words. If the hurt was minor, forgive and forget. Families can be devastated over really minor, stupid, power struggles. Ask yourself if you are prepared to lose this relationship, before you do or say damaging unforgivable deeds. Keep your two cents to yourself.

5. Went Too Far?

Has the person truly done something you can not forgive and will never forget? Infidelity, stealing, betrayal of vows, lying or abandonment are big deals. Remember their unfair actions say they are not worthy, not that you are not worthy. Couples and families can recover with time and hours of communication that rebuild trust. Take time to assess if this relationship is good for you when it is at its best. Do you thrive in this person’s company or are you often hurt, intimidated, criticized and taken advantage of financially or emotionally. Maybe as painful as separation can be, in the long run you will find a better match. Right now while you are miserable and hurt, do not try to stop caring for the one that hurt you. Wait until you feel stronger and more capable of getting over the loss, and then reduce your contact with the person so they can not hurt you again.

For help deciding whether to stay or go read Matchlines.

BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff.

To purchase Matchlines book please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com

To read Dr. Molly Barrow daily blog: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Saturday, April 28, 2007

Market your Book! Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow


Yes, writing books is a competitive business. Only a small percent of books ever get published and only a tiny percent of those books sell more than a few hundred copies. A book may be considered an A-list book when sales cross the 5000 copies mark. But regardless of the number of sales, you can use a published book to create credibility and give you a unique topic to discuss on television, radio and print.

A marketing structure is necessary in order to be successful in the book writing business. Publishers rarely do any marketing for your book unless you are already a huge name. Most novice writers have expectations that are way out of line with the actual book marketing a publisher will provide.

Your book is the content but the marketing platform is what really makes a book sell. Platform assets are necessary to create your own publicity program, using word of mouth or by generating a strong presence on the web that could help you build a seminar business. You can teach people your subject expertise and sell your book product at the same time. (Herman, 2007)

You do not need to be a national household name. You can create a brand around yourself within your community and your area of expertise, become a respected voice and generate product sales. So, if you are thinking about writing a book, do it! Then, market it like crazy.

Listen to more from top literary agent Jeff Herman at http://www.yourquantumleap.com/JeffHermanAudio.html?10452


BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff.

To purchase Matchlines book please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com

To read Dr. Molly Barrow daily blog: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Dr. Molly Barrow White Papers visit: http://drmollybarrowpapersedu.@blogspot.com/

Friday, April 27, 2007

John Tesh Quotes Relationship Expert Author Dr. Molly Barrow



JOHN TESH

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Things That Make People Swoon

"No matter what you may have heard, the secret to bringing sexy back isn’t Justin Timberlake. At least, that’s the word from Women’s Health magazine – they polled more than a thousand readers to find out what REALLY makes people swoon. Here are a few of the things they say work better than a pop song, every time.

Brushing someone’s hair. The scalp contains MILLIONS of nerve endings, and someone running a hairbrush – or their fingers – through your locks is a primitive form of nurturing that makes you feel loved. So, ask your honey to give you a head massage. Or even better – to wash your hair with warm water. This increases blood flow to your scalp and makes you feel even swoonier.
Women love it when you smell like soap. Dr. Molly Barrow is a psychotherapist and she says our olfactory system – which is the fancy term for our sense of smell – is one of the most powerful and direct links to our brain. You know how the smell of freshly baked pastries can make you hungry? Well, soap is just as powerful. Unlike a heavy cologne, which can block your natural scent, the smell of soap mixes with your pheromones. Those are chemicals your body produces that help attract women. And the combination of the two is very appealing to your sweetheart.
Eye contact. When a woman walks into a room, a man forms his opinion of how attractive she is based on what she does with her eyes. That’s according to researchers at Dartmouth University, who studied how eye contact affects our attitudes about people. So ladies, if a man catches your eye, take a deliberate look at him. Then, when he looks back at you - don’t turn your eyes away! Count “one Saskatchewan two Saskatchewan” and then break the gaze. If you do, the man will consider you more likeable and attractive than he would if you immediately turned your eyes away. Why? Because gazing into someone's eyes lights up the brain region that’s associated with reward."

Thank you to John Tesh for quoting Dr. Barrow and for his beautiful music.

BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff.

To purchase Matchlines book please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com

To read Dr. Molly Barrow daily blog: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Dr. Molly Barrow White Papers visit: http://drmollybarrowpapersedu.blogspot.com/

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

MENTAL WARNINGS OR PREMONITION? Relationship expert author Dr. Molly Barrow

Many people suffer from mental problems like paranoia and depression that can make their thoughts negative and frightening. They may be held hostage to the constant warnings in their mind. However, most other people are rarely troubled with their thoughts. Yet, millions of sensory stimuli flood our brains with subtle and mostly ignored data. Our conscious mind pays attention to only a tiny portion necessary to get through our day even though our brain stores and sorts input all day.

Sometimes do you ever just get a feeling, like a knowing? Maybe it is not possible to see into the future, but when you get that nagging message in your mind, often it is a warning to take action. When you get a mental nudge that warns you to go lock the back door, check on the baby or glance at the gas gauge, do you ignore these seemingly random thoughts? Even if there is no apparent evidence of a problem, remember that your mind is much greater than your conscious thoughts. Your mind’s only job is your survival. It makes good sense to listen to and believe in your mind. Respond to safety warnings if your mind is trying to get your attention. Some may call it a premonition. Perhaps your mind thinks you have ignored important evidence.



BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff.

To purchase Matchlines book please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com

To read Dr. Molly Barrow daily blog: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Dr. Molly Barrow White Papers visit: http://drmollybarrowpapersedu.blogspot.com/

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

TO GRANDMOTHERS WE GO! Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow





Shrink about This
Dr. Molly Barrow


Grandparents may have all the right intentions; however, the arrival of a toddler to their home can be overwhelming. Here are ten tips to help smooth the transition.
1. FORGET CLEAN
Forego a straight or clean home. A toddler is not capable of adjusting to a new environment and transferring their skills as easily as an older child. He or she might be neat at home but find grandma’s house confusing. Ignore the mess, otherwise you will scold and nag throughout the visit. That’s not how you want to be remembered. Use a broom to push clutter out of the walk way to keep the house safe from falls. Clean up messy spills. If your toddler enjoys picking up you can sing together while you pick up the Lincoln Logs. Otherwise, let Mom and Dad teach their child to be neat, later. When the precious energy cyclone has gone back home, then you can clean in the silence to your hearts content.
2. DELEGATE SHIFTS
Grandma, you are out of practice and you get tired more easily. Take turns with Grandpa and older children so that you can lie down in a quiet room and heal your nerve endings. Even thirty minutes will help you bounce back with a smile. If you wear yourself out you could resemble a Disney witch instead of a Norman Rockwell painting of a happy family.
3. MORNING CARTOONS
PBS, Sprout and other stations provide a fun line-up of toddler shows like Curious George, Sesame Street and Blues Clues. Take advantage of the hypnotic state that the television creates in their impressionable minds to get yourself to the bathroom, take a shower and get dressed in shifts with your spouse. Beware of shouting, high conflict or violent shows on regular television that may trigger copy cat behavior.
4. DEVELOP A ROUTINE, ANY ROUTINE
Duplicate the toddler’s normal routine whenever possible. A clever little mind might try to manipulate their normal rules with new surroundings and the absence of Mom and Dad. Spanking or yelling at a toddler is useless and only confuses them more. They want to behave well, and will respond to rewards. Punishment can create a total meltdown as they do not understand cause and effect yet, only that you just hurt them. Use praise, treats and privileges to encourage good behavior. Riding in the car or at bedtime is a good time to recount all the things the child did right today, mentally reinforcing good behavior with lavish praise and appreciation. “Grandma is so proud that you held her hand to cross the street and helped her by climbing in your car seat. What a good boy, you are. Thank you.” Ignore the mistakes and most will just go away.
5. USE THE PARKS
Get ye to the parks and playgrounds. Some cities have indoor museums in case of inclement weather. Keep your toddler in sight at all times, but do allow them to run, hop and spin. No one else can keep a toddler quiet or sitting still so why should you try to force behavior that is impossible at this age? Most people enjoy toddlers and are very tolerant of their exuberance. Helpful strangers are still strangers, so be cautious.
6. NAPS AND BEDTIMES
Earplugs help to soften endless chatter, furious yells of “I am not tired,” and banging on your furniture. Some naps go really well and some are caretaker torture. Bedtime is very scary; do you remember being a child at grandmother’s house with creeks and howling wind? “I want my Mommy,” comes to mind rather quickly. Do your best to make bedtime a happy ritual, never a punishment for misbehavior. Line the bed with stuffed animals, a sippy cup and a favorite blanket, and then hope for the best. You probably can plan on a late night the first few times you attempt to get them to sleep.
7. SAVED
Check in the phone book for toddler indoor play areas. Most require you to remain with the child but amazingly you can get some work done amid the din and chaos. Sit at a back table and let your grandchild discover ways to play in a safe and highly stimulating environment. He or she will fall asleep as soon as you get back home and you will get a double break.
8. SUGAR
Sugar lurks in fruit juice, bread and fast food as well as candy and cereals. If you want to make it a lot easier on yourself, skip the sugary treats and carry veggies, protein and whole grains with you. Organic fish and nut oils can really help enhance a healthy brain and body for you or your toddler.
9. TIME OUT
The tantrums, yelling and stomping feet will happen from time to time, usually out of frustration. Help Grandpa to gain control of his temper and forgive him for losing his cool. Recognize when you or Grandpa need a time out to recover from the stress of a toddler who is trying to experience all facets of life in fifteen minutes. The crushing obligation and responsibility for the safety of your grandchild is weighty indeed. Your children trust you with their most precious gift, their child. If you need a break, take it before you lose your temper and do or say regrettable things. The toddler may not remember you are being a jerk, but your spouse will.
10. TODDLER TIME
Downshift your hectic life to simplified tasks. Try to accomplish only the absolute minimum during babysitting occasions. Float into toddler time, be present with them. Do not think about the past or plan the future, just be right now. Have no expectations of getting anything done except keeping company with your wild and crazy charge. Return the undamaged toddler to his or her parents and let them worry about teaching manners or discipline. The kids will scream, “Yes,” the next time their parents ask, “Do you want to go to stay with Grandma and Grandpa?” Proudly you will smile at your spouse and whisper, “Mission accomplished.”



BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff.

To purchase Matchlines book please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com

To read Dr. Molly Barrow daily blog: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Dr. Molly Barrow White Papers visit: http://drmollybarrowpapersedu.blogspot.com/

Monday, April 23, 2007

Tear up your credit cards! Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow author.

Have you ever tried to correct an error on your credit report with the credit reporting companies? I just attempted to correct an error at Equifax. You are directed to one site after another, required to enter a number you do not have before you can even complain, or are told to call telephone numbers that list everything imaginable except for "Fix an Error?" Often, the equivalent of red tape on line or on the phone eventually overwhelms you and you give up long before anyone at the credit reporting service is ever troubled, to their benefit, not yours. Meanwhile, the error on your report can cost you a fortune in higher interest rates, the ability to refinance or the opportunity to consolidate your high interest cards. What began as a service to lenders has become a monster for consumers. But consumers are not considered the customers of the credit card companies. As long as banks, credit cards and financial institutions still rely on misinformation to make decisions, consumers will pay the price. Contact your representatives and ask for severe punishment to the credit reporting agencies for causing you any hardship when they give out incorrect information. The housing market, over extended consumers with maxed out credit cards and home foreclosures indicate a rotten economy even if big business is doing just fine. As long as bankers squeeze the working people dry with interest rates jumping to 32% after two late payments, America will stay down, depressed and powerless. Take control of your finances and tear up your credit cards. Rent your home and bypass any need for a credit report or a lender. Drive an old heap until you can pay cash for a newer one. If enough individuals do that then the institutions of credit will feel it and understand that ultimately without consumers they will not exist. Maybe then I can get an error corrected with one phone call or one email. Why is that so difficult?

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff.

To purchase Matchlines book please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com

To read Dr. Molly Barrow daily blog: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Dr. Molly Barrow White Papers visit: http://drmollybarrowpapersedu.blogspot.com/

Sunday, April 22, 2007

The Gift of Babysitting Relationship expert author Dr. Molly Barrow


One of the best gifts that a friend, neighbor or relative can give to a parent is the gift of time. Parenting demands are enormous for parents with several young children or a particularly demanding or difficult child. Only in recent years have young families been so isolated from grandparents, aunts, uncles and even communities who would share parenting duties. Nannies and babysitters are often out of reach financially for young parents who need the most help. Call a parent today and offer to watch the kids for a few hours and listen for the gratitude in the exhausted parent's voice.

Saturday, April 21, 2007

Men's Impotency and Women's Menopause

Spouses have difficulty talking about their own lowered performance and desire as sexual partners. As partners age, experience illness or their hormones decline, making love can become a real problem. Yet, who wants to bring up the subject and hurt each other's feelings? However, the consequence of tip toeing around the elephant in the room can create emotional distance in an otherwise healthy and compatible relationship. When a man fails to get an erection on demand he may begin to avoid the possibility of a recurrence by avoiding his partner. Rather than suspecting a physical malfunction, he may look for increasingly more intense stimulation hoping that will recover his youthful vigor. Impotency is often based in failing hormones or medications like blood pressure medications. The desperate man may replace lovemaking with his wife with pornography, affairs with strangers, try younger partners or even other males in an attempt to keep himself in a state of arousal. Affairs with minors or pornography addiction are worst case scenarios. These behaviors can destroy your marriage and the trust of a long term partner. Some men do take the more difficult but higher road of telling their partner the truth. She may complain that it is because she is not so attractive or a few pounds too heavy but bring the conversation back to your health. Although impotency may be the symptom that is bothering you the most, lowered hormones in a man may pervasively rob him of his good health, muscle tone and sex drive just like menopause does for a woman, just different hormones. Call a progressive specialist familiar with male hormones, alternative medications, weight loss and exercise, and discover how sexy you and your spouse can be. Keep intimacy for just the two of you and restart the passion of earlier days.

Friday, April 20, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow Research Content for Education




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Wednesday, April 18, 2007

PETA and Dr. Molly Barrow Relationship expert, author radio television

Dear Dr. Molly...


Thank you for your great article, "You can teach your children to be kind." I wanted to send you some information about a book you might be interested in reading or mentioning in a future column. I've attached a sample chapter for your review.

Best wishes,

Christina Matthies
Media Submissions Coordinator
People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals (PETA)
501 Front St.
Norfolk, VA 23510
www.PETA.org

For Immediate Release:

April 18, 2007



Contact:

Christina Matthies 757-373-6712; ChrissyM@peta.org.



New Book by PETA President Helps Kids Turn Compassion Into Action



Can your child really change the world? PETA President Ingrid E. Newkirk thinks so, and she shows kids how to do it in her latest book, 50 Awesome Ways Kids Can Help Animals: Fun and Easy Ways to Be a Kind Kid (Warner Books).



Most children are naturally drawn to animals, and Newkirk wants to help them turn their compassion into action. 50 Awesome Ways Kids Can Help Animals provides information about how kids can help animals in their everyday lives—from being good neighbors to wildlife and taking better care of their animal companions to eating healthy, animal-friendly foods.



A recurring theme throughout the book is empathy, something that educators, psychologists, and law enforcement officials agree is key to helping mold children into responsible, caring adults. Newkirk encourages kids to put themselves in animals’ shoes by sharing fascinating facts about animal behavior and contrasting wild animals’ native habitats with conditions in zoos, circuses, and pet shops. “Live by the Golden Rule: ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,’” writes Newkirk. “When dealing with any lost or confused animals, try to put yourself in their place. … [H]elp them as you would want to be helped.”



Laid out in an easy-to-read format that features charming illustrations, riddles, and quizzes, 50 Awesome Ways Kids Can Help Animals is packed with information that will inspire kids to put down the Game Boy and get busy helping animals, including the following:



· Words of wisdom from kids’ favorite athletes, musicians, and actors

· Poems and artwork created by kids as well as real-life examples of kids’ activism for animals

· Tips for helping wildlife and taking proper care of companion animals

· Easy-to-prepare cholesterol-free recipes

· “What You Can Do” sections at the end of every chapter, which are filled with simple things that kids can do to give animals a helping hand

· Dozens of resources for more information



“Parents can use this book to help nurture kids’ natural affinity for animals, which in turn will help make them be more sensitive to the feelings of others, including friends, classmates, and family members,” says Newkirk. “50 Awesome Ways Kids Can Help Animals will help kids realize that they can make a difference and put them on the road to becoming more empowered adults.”

What do you want from Business Networking? Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow television radio author

Sometimes it is difficult to focus on what you really want in your work with the infinite possibilities of our modern times. Dr. Marcus Zillman (marcuszillman.blogspot.com) sent me an incredible site that helps business people connect all over the world called www.xing.com. Within minutes I was receiving emails from high placed executives willing to network and communicate. A place on the site asked me what I want in business and what I have to offer in business. After some careful reflection of what I want I listed the following:

Projects:
• Venture Capital for marketing campaign for my new book Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love.
• Syndicated column, television and radio program using Matchlines relationship compatibility theory.
• Venture capital for low budget independent films in various genres. Current film project starring David Carradine, Mariel Hemingway and myself, My Suicide, teen comedy with a message to be released Summer, 2007.
• Buyer for two Naples, FL waterfront income properties (Gulf access) $1,345,000 and $735,000. http://www.homesinnaplesfloridaforsale.com/. Both homes are rented through 4/08, with monthly rental income of $2100 and $1300. 1031 exchange opportunity.
and Venture capital for a short term treatment facility to help people get healthy.

To my surprise the list was limited to only a few areas. I immediately felt more centered and with a clearer direction. See what your list looks like and maybe you will become more focused and able to reach your goals. Best of wishes always,
Dr. Molly


BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
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Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Post Traumatic Stress: What to Watch For! Relationship Expert Dr. Molly Barrow author of MatchLines

Has someone that you love experienced a traumatic event recently? Do you want to help them but you do not know how to begin? Here are ten ways to deal with post traumatic stress.

1.THE CONDITION IS REAL
Acute post traumatic stress lasts about one to three months. Chronic post traumatic stress lasts more than three months and "delayed onset" post traumatic stress arrives at least six months after the event or stress. The sooner that a person is de-briefed after a traumatic event the less likely the person will have prolonged post-traumatic stress. Make an appointment as soon as possible with an experienced strong therapist that can listen over and over to the details of the event to help desensitize the trauma fears. If a person is talking suicide take them seriously and get them immediately to a hospital or psychiatrist where they may receive observation or medication.

2. KIDS ACT DIFFERENTLY
A child responds differently to a trauma then an adult. An adult who experiences intense fear, horror or helplessness may become hysterical, freeze, or act violent. A child may simple act agitated and disorganized. Watch for sleep disturbances, anger, difficulty concentrating, jumpiness or acting too vigilant. A person may also begin to act detached from people, places and activities that were once pleasurable.

3. INDULGE
A child may begin to act out the aspects of the trauma repeatedly in play times. Images, thoughts and recollections may occur in adults causing distress. Leave a light on, soft music playing or let someone sleep next to your bed if they are having trouble sleeping at night. Avoid sleeping with the television on because the vulnerable mind is listening while they sleep to conflicts, violence or hard selling that may make the person more upset. This may be the time to indulge an adult or child. Avoid putting more pressure on them or attempting to toughen them up. Taking a child's favorite blanket or toy away to help them grow up is bad psychology anyway, and would be even worse in a state of trauma.

4. BE ON THEIR SIDE
Flashbacks are frequently extremely disturbing and can be triggered by any of the senses, smells, sounds or visual stimulation that reminds the person of the traumatic event. They may temporarily lose their defenses and re-experience the horror of the event. Be patient and try to calm the person by reassuring them that they are safe now. Some combat veterans struggle with flashbacks and post traumatic stress for many years. If you feel embarrassed in public when a nice event becomes a meltdown, then you may be choosing the side of the public and not your loved one. They are in the fight of their life and need all the support you can give. Save any criticism for something that can be controlled, not for post traumatic stress.

5. PROTECT
If your child develops an intense fear of a place or person, listen to them. Sexual abuse or the threat of violence can happen in a minute. Maybe you looked away and something happened to your child. Even an older violent sibling or a grandparent with dementia may act inappropriately. Your job is to protect your child, even from family members. Have your child use dolls to show you what happened to them.

6. JUST TV
A rape or murder on television is impossible for a child to dismiss as only acting. Screen all violent images that you can until your child is older, including video games, songs and movies. Nightmares and fears may be triggered by fiction as well as fact.

7. EAT WELL
Post traumatic stress can happen from many events, including a car accident, a violent crime or a natural disaster. But recurring thought of horrific images can also be self inflicted trauma. The healthy brain diet requires high quality protein and Omegas found in fish and nut oils, fresh vegetables and fruit to operate properly. Sensitivity to wheat, milk, eggs or additives and vitamin and mineral deficiencies can also make the body and mind ill. Many kids eat waffles for breakfast, mac and cheese for lunch and pizza for dinner. Parents wonder why their children are depressed, obsessed or paranoid with diets of predominantly wheat, sugar and milk. Give the brain and body the best possible organic food and see if post traumatic fears as well as other problem behavior disappear more easily.

8. NEVER EVER TELL
Are they keeping the trauma a secret? Terrible things can happen to a child or an adult that renders them silent, overwhelmed with guilt or shame. Denial is a coping skill that allows something horrific to be encapsulated and stored in a blocked memory. The very thought of the event is considered too dangerous to remember or even life threatening. A trusted therapist can help to unblock the memory. Remembering may be painful but keeping bad memories inside is toxic to their life and physical health.

9 WHY ME?
Painful memories eventually fade. Some people are able to cope more easily than others. Post traumatic stress hits frail women, little children or the bravest soldier without discrimination. It is a mental computer glitch that will heal and is no reflection of intelligence, maturity or courage. The brain has override protection that kicks in to protect itself regardless of a person's will. One must simply give the brain an opportunity to reestablish normal operating procedure. How long that takes is unique to every individual.

10. YOU ARE DISMISSED
The worst thing a loved one can do is try to sweep the feelings under the rug. Comments like, "Oh, don't be silly," or "That's all in your imagination," do much harm to someone trying to purge themselves of inner demons. Let the person express themselves and hire a professional mental health counselor to help the victim through the worst of it. Soon, you will see the return of lightness and joy in the heart of your loved one.


BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
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Monday, April 16, 2007

Can Powerful Women Be Righteous Women?

April 16, 2007
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Shrink About This
By Molly Barrow
Importantly and correctly, our nation stands up to defend less powerful people and this is to be admired. However, public demeaning attacks of our most powerful women are gaining strength and need exposure. Jealousy and differing political postures alone would not generate this level of irrational and daily frenzied hatred directed at Laura Bush, Nancy Pelosi, Condoleezza Rice and Hillary Clinton. Have we slipped back to the fifties when little ladies need to stay in their place?

I always try to look for the positive motive when I observe negative behavior. What is there to be gained by the insidious lean on Hillary, Nancy, Rosie, Condoleezza, Barbara Boxer, and really, all women, to be quiet? This wave of paranoia is not from only media big mouths but from a strong societal base.
In a study by Harvard Professor of Public Policy David King, King found that that Independents and Democratic voters are more willing to cross party lines. “Compared with the otherwise-identical male Republican, the female candidate was imputed to be far more trustworthy, far more likely to share one’s own concerns, and far more likely to garner one’s vote. The female candidate's advantage in terms of likely support is ten percent among Independent and Democratic voters. In competitive elections, holding everything else constant, a ten-point swing from Independents and Democrats is something Republican Party leaders should savor.”

However something stands in the way of Republican women’s success at the polls.

King found “Republican respondents – of both genders – judge their own female candidates more harshly, however. Among Republicans, the female candidate is thought to be a weaker leader, while Independents and Democrats hold the reverse view… Compared with the otherwise-identical male Republican, strong Republicans are significantly less likely to support the female candidate. This is true of men and women Republican voters, and it survives multivariate tests controlling for age, income and race.” (http://ksghome.harvard.edu/~dking/bulletin.pdf)

Support for women politicians falls off sharply with the Republican base. A common denominator of the Republican base is a tendency toward the religious right. Perhaps the attack of sexist remarks has something to do with adhering to religious instructions, now thousands of years old. Written by men and reflecting attitudes of their ancient societies, all major religious works clearly define a woman’s place. In most cases, religion requires the woman to be subservient to her man.

Following the teachings of spirituality and kindness raises men and women from base animal behavior origins to a higher level and saves our society from barbaric instincts. The words of years passed are essential to study yet, these early words must be analyzed in the context of the time period that they were written. Scholars can take the important lessons from great literary works and learn from the sum of people’s experiences. However, literal and blind following of another’s words has the potential to repeat the horrors of Jim Jones, suicide bombers or Hitler.

Imagine if your doctor blindly followed the medical books of three hundred years ago. Some of the information is timeless and universal and some of it could destroy you. As a psychotherapist, if I followed the original psychological treatment plan, the best I could offer your depression is to strap you into a tub of water and perhaps, a useless lobotomy. We must think as individuals in our current times to avoid disastrous group-think that requires one to disengage from personal truth and reason. An absolute truth of yesterday is replaced by a completely new absolute truth of today more quickly than most people can adjust to the change.

One constant is that the struggle of all humans to be free of dominance by others has never been successfully suppressed. Once there were emperors, kings and royals who selected life and death for the rest. Their law was self serving and required armies of enforcers. As a democratic nation we posture ourselves as giving equal power to every vote. But our votes actually elect powerful representatives who then make all the real decisions for us. This archaic system was useful when the population was illiterate but modern Americans are kept strangely dependent. Democracy, freedom and science continue to evolve, but must religion also shift?

Now, we have women who have volunteered, been elected to school board, worked their way up politically while serving a billion cups of coffee to others. The media shouts these women down with personal attacks aimed at hurting their little girl feelings and making them go away. Is the motive not political at all, but an urgent and even righteous attempt to obediently follow narrowly defined roles for women from religious books and religious teachers of most faiths? Do some religious leaders need to maintain the status quo of ancient teachings for their corporations and big business product sales to survive? Or can religion grow and expand incorporating human history, the body of science and new roles for men and women. Religion need not fear loosening the rigidity of dogma because religion has always and may always trump science with the ultimate question, “What was the origin of the first speck?” Even science replies, “God.”

The shaming name calling endured by assertive women who step away from religious definitions of themselves reveals the obvious double standard held for powerful, aggressive men who are complemented for the very same traits. Many deeply religious people find difficulty accepting new roles for men and women that defy a lifetime of religious practice. How can we question which words we make as our law and then choose thoughtfully without prejudice? Is there room in God’s eyes for a non-subservient woman who seeks to right wrongs in a lawful, sane manner? Will our most strict religious leaders adjust their sermons to allow women to be respected as leaders in worship, legal or political arenas that were once reserved for men?

Do we as women take action to save our children from needless death from war, lack of health care or skyrocketing drug costs? Do we care when an African baby dies from hunger and thirst? Do we watch our men, tired from work, pay taxes that are squandered? Or do we sit passively and quietly with our hands folded in our lap like we did in the classroom, such good little girls? A beautiful speech by First Lady Laura Bush addresses the struggle of women in third world countries and her commitment to help. (http://www.whitehouse.gov/news/releases/2005/03/20050308-5.html)

Will the religious right expand the role of righteous women to include service to our country in a full political press? Can men unshackle their definition of women and still love them, even as leaders? Are sexist slurs simply a reflection of fearing God? Is there a place for the religious right female outside the home?
The women who have made it to the top positions in our society could not be where they are today if they were easily intimidated or stopped by negativity thrown at them. Have these women bypassed the religious requirements by expanding their definition of home to include our nation and planet? How wonderful could Earth be if female leaders cleaned up the mess?


BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
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Sunday, April 15, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow enters Sirrus Blues Contest Relationship expert and author of Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Mak

Tax time is not easy for most people. As a nation we are struggling with bankruptcies, college loans, and even big debts to China. Guess that we all have some Tax Blues. I wrote a song for Shemekia to sing in a Sirrus song writing contest about a poor guy who can't get started with that cardboard box of receipts at his feet. It is all in good fun and I hope that I win the contest!

"Everyone sings the blues around tax time, but not everyone gets to have them sung by blues diva Shemekia Copeland. As you collect those receipts and W-2s, get in touch with your inner blues and write some original lyrics for your tax-time blues. Email us your lyrics at taxblues@sirius-radio.com and Shemekia Copeland will sing the winning verse on her regular Saturday show. The winner of Beat the Tax-Time Blues gets a $500 check to help get straight with Uncle Sam." (Sirrus.com)


No Tax Blues to Claim

Molly Barrow



This tax scene’s obscene. I’m feeling damn mean.

It‘s April Fourteen. I’m drinking Jim Beam.

Can’t start on this pile, got one day to file.

Tax man’s awaitin’. Smell his evil smile?



Don’t understand taxes, computers or faxes



Got no kids, no car, don’t believe in war

Why I gotta pay for school, tanks and more?

Can’t read the crazy form, where’s that W-2?

They got my money, what else can I do?



Don’t understand taxes, computers or faxes



Just keep my money and leave me alone

Send me no letters and don’t try to phone

Pretend you don’t know me, I’ll do the same

Get free of you, with no tax blues to claim.



Don’t understand taxes, computers or faxes

Saturday, April 14, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow relationship expert and author of Matchlines films at FGCU PBS Studio

Dr. Molly Barrow was asked by My Suicide and Disney star Gabe Sunday and director David Miller to shoot a pick-up shot of her holding her book Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love for the Los Angeles based teen film My Suicide. Dr. Barrow play herself, a psychotherapist in the film. This shot required Dr. Barrow to stand in front of a blue screen, a film technique that allows only the person to be seen and all the background to disappear.

"Basically, in this technique a subject is shot in front of a green or blue screen, which is then made transparent and replaced by a different background image or video. This gives you a combined video containing images from both clips. A good example is the weather reports shown on television. The video is created by combining a video with an animation. The video shows weatherman standing in front of a green screen while the animation displays maps and graphics. The green background of the video is made transparent and replaced by the animation" (www.deskshare.com)

Later, edititors in Los Angeles will add a background to create the complete scene. This tricky shot needed to broadcast quality audio and video production. The professionals at WGCU-TV had the equipment and knowledge to do this shot.

Once the shot was prepared with the blue screen however, the crew pointed out that the royal blue cover of Dr. Molly's book also would disappear, defeating the purpose. The competent staff and crew of FGCU/PBS Studio quickly re-draped the shot with a green screen to solve the problem. Thank you to Sheri Coleman, Production Manager, WGCU-TV, Antonio Rodriguez, Senior Broadcast Specialist, Tim McCarthy, Sr Computer Support Specialist and all the staff for an excellent and fun shoot. (http://itech.fgcu.edu/audioVideo.asp)

BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
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Friday, April 13, 2007

I MUS Laugh or Not? Relationship Expert Dr. Molly Barrow author of Matchlines Relationship Self help

Shrink About This
By Dr. Molly Barrow

The elements of comedy usually require a surprise, a wet paint bench, an embarrassing mistake or a pratfall for the hero to transcend into the victim and make us laugh. The victimization can run the gamut from good clean fun to lightly-veiled sadistic words meant to destroy the object of the joke. Situational humor is one kind of joke, slapstick is hysterical for some or can become boring rather quickly and bathroom humor seems often too gross. Yet, have you laughed at a Pollock joke, an Irishman, an Italian and a Frenchman in a bar joke, or a blond joke? If so, can you be quite as outraged as you ought to be when someone says a sexist, racist, or sexual orientation joke or comment?

Do you hold the sense of humor of a teacher, elected official or religious leader at a different standard than your favorite stand- up? Is the cowboy hat a costume of farce when worn indoors? Thus, is Imus a comedian? If Imus is a comedian, then people who choose to listen to him expect to laugh. Did you consider Imus a pillar of our society or was he simply coarse entertainment not meant for polite company? Was the national outrage because Imus was a newscaster with some political clout and high powered guests? Or was he a comedian who exposed his white boy attitude.

Revamping the way a society treats minorities and women is an important task. Turning off voices of ugly misplaced superiority is a good beginning. However, equally distasteful and dangerous are programs that masquerade as news, when they are clearly misleading exaggeration entertainment. Perhaps “news” could be a protected word only used by fact-checked and balanced reporting without opinion. If a lie is discovered those misstatements could be heavily fined and disdainfully exposed with matching flair and equal airtime. Perhaps then, the public would not confuse our edgy comedians with scholars and experts.

Artists are necessary to expand the confines of a society even when their art or humor goes too far or makes us uncomfortable. Art and performance changes our perceptions of ourselves and our world. When we silence our artists, our society shrinks and stifles all of us. Sometimes art goes too far and tests a society. Sometimes art lifts the rug and exposes dirty truth lurking beneath. No one wants to associate themselves with the Imus remarks of white male supremacy but was it really the first time you had heard that kind of talk? The firing of Imus is a symbol of a shift in our society, a leap to higher ground, even if rooted in the anticipatory fear of sponsors.

What then, exactly, has been redefined? Hopefully, comedians still have freedom to offend. Must mainstream networks make every program appropriate for all viewers? Can we laugh at ourselves but not at others? How can someone tell if you are laughing along with them or at them? If the offense is in the ear of the victim, can the victim then rob another’s right to free speech? These questions will be debated as awareness exposes millions of examples of slurs in every corner of our world. People with poor self-worth use insensitive and cruel words as a misguided attempt to elevate themselves by putting others down. Slurs demean the status of the speaker more than the victim. Severe risks and consequences occur whenever you wander over the mercurial line of decency. One clue is when no one else is laughing.


BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
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Thursday, April 12, 2007

Net your Carbon Emissions, America! Relationship Expert Dr. Molly Barrow Author of Matchlines on radio and television.



Woodstock has done something very hip. I became familiar with the beautiful countryside near Woodstock while waiting in a line of a thousand cars in bumer bumper traffic excitedly anticipating an amazing rock concert. Once again on the cutting edge of societal change, Woodstock's town board approved a resolution that called for "implementing policies resulting in no net emission of carbon dioxide and other greenhouse gases by 2017." (CNN.com)
As one of the poster girls for self-indulgence, I like the erasure method. Rather than having to deny myself much, maybe I can net out my negative greenhouse gases by endorsing "green building, bike paths, tree planting and biodiesel municipal fleets" and learn to offset.
The you-go-first attitude when it comes to sacrifice for the common good may have just gotten started. Perhaps some of those people never made it home after the concert and are still promoting peace, love and fairness.
That's groovy.



BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
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Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow Relationship Expert Author on Talk Radio WBZT Skylar Stone Show

Dr. Molly Barrow returns for a third time to the Skylar Stone Radio Show.
Listen to Dr. Molly Barrow on Friday May 4, 2007 on the Skylar Stone's Romancing with Skylar Stone on WBZT, "Women's Hormones" with the passionate Skylar Stone. Listen live on http://www.wbzt.com/pages/streaming.html

Art is Mental Health Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow





First the eyes drink in the art, then feelings well up, a visceral reaction preceding analysis that can move the observer to tears of joy or compassion. The mind responds to visual art through stimulation of senses and emotions. The captivating pleasure of excellence of line and form displayed in contemporary art, http://www.jdelacroix.com
or the beauty and romance of Renaissance art portraiture, http://www.nicholaspetrucci.com/ or photography that captures both the loveliness and harsh reality of life, http://www.conniebransilver.com/ can contribute to mental health and awaken spiritual awareness in people who have become too busy to dream. Taking time to gaze at beautiful art is good mental medicine for everyone.

Monday, April 09, 2007

Stress Kills by relationship expert author and television radio guest Dr. Molly Barrow

Are you at your wits end? Do you feel suicidal or like giving up? Many people do not realize when ill health is sneaking up on them, a certain result of ignoring signals from your mind and body. When a person is stressed beyond their physical ability to recover or if their sleep is disturbed, the body begins to fail. An exhausted woman without hormones will feel so ill and foggy brained that even dying may seem like a sensible choice. An executive type with a strong personality may will their fatigued body into months of exertion without heeding its call to rest. Often the priority demands of family, money, business or competition make people desperate to hang on. I want you to let go of the pretentious stress and let your body rest. Suicidal thoughts and feeling tired when you awaken mean you have already passed your body's limit. You must stop the rat race and chill out. Have your hormonal and thyroid levels checked by a progressive physician. Stop working for two weeks and rest. Yes, it will be expensive, you may even lose what you are running so hard to hold on to but you must believe that you do have a physical limit. One that if you ignore and if you continue on, you may die. Your weakest link will fail you, your heart, your lungs or even your will to live. Most problems can be easily solved if a person is fresh from rest and recovery. Beating an exhausted prize race horse is cruel and stupid. Do you prize yourself? Yet, you may be forcing yourself beyond your limits. Take that two weeks off in an Arizona spa (or as close to a "spa" as you can get) and save your life, business or family.

Sunday, April 08, 2007

Americans need to catch-up to Britain Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow

Dear Dr. Molly,

Re your column, it hits me in the face every time I return to Europe and see so many, many places where they are way, way ahead of the US in environmental awareness. Organic everything, low emissions, recycling, Fair Trade items offered and encouraged all the way down to the corner shops. Americans are, the Brits are quick to tell me, their cast-off Puritans, rigid and judgmental. Though meant as a mild jab, it has a lot of truth to it.

Grandmother in Oxford


Thank you for your letter. Our leadership has had other priorities, but if new leadership focuses on environmental changes I believe Americans will understand our environmental responsibility and do whatever is necessary to maintain our current lifestyle. I hope that also includes offering assistance with food, shelter, clean water and medical attention for others in need.

Saturday, April 07, 2007

World Peace and Prosperity For All Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow

Dr. Molly Barrow's newspaper column Shrink About This and her ezine articles are reprinted in many countries like the United Kingdom, Japan, Italy, and Germany. Dr. Barrow has many loyal readers in smaller countries like Norway and Vietnam, too. The power of the web allows individuals to reach each other in far away lands and share new ideas. Each new person you meet has a unique story to tell and when you open your mind to embrace innovation and diversity, people will recognize you as a more intelligent and sane human being. As we listen to each other's opinions, our world will become a safer and more harmonious home for everyone. With each new nationality that reads Dr. Molly Barrow's book, Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love or DrMollyBarrow.com blog people grow closer and more tolerant of different opinions, important steps in the right direction toward world peace and prosperity for all.

GLOBAL WARNINGS Shrink About This Dr. Molly Barrow expert author Matchlines relationship self help

How often do you heed warnings? Who was listening when experts suggested that Japanese/ American relationships were so bad that an attack was eminent? Who paid attention when experts said Germany might regroup and strengthen for WW2? Were you the first in line to get the polio shot? When did you finally accept Nixon should resign? Did General Shinseki and Powell seem absurd when they warned over four years ago that America would need several thousand soldiers to deal with ethnic tensions, post-hostility control of geography and to ensure that people have water and food or we would fail to secure Iraq? Have you paid off your credit cards and cut them in half yet? Have you noticed fixing errors later, rather than sooner, is really expensive?

How do you react to more personal warnings? Do you argue that the experts don’t know what they are talking about? Have you worn a condom every time you had sex since the early eighties or do you bet your life that your partner is faithful or that HIV infection only happens to other people? Do you order an organic vegetable salad for lunch like your doctor suggests or are you still eating only cows and potatoes in search of a cardiac? Do you heed expert Dr. Blane Crandall, Board Certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology, who informed the United States Senate that menopausal women benefit from prescribed bio-identical hormones because the danger of illness and mortality is reduced? "Women on hormones not only improve their bone health but their whole body benefits... a women's memory, heart, colon, skin, sexual organs and bladder all benefits from continued use of HRT" (www.drblanecrandall.com/). Or do you believe what an article in the newspaper said about horse urine hormones? Are you exercising every other day for thirty minute hard enough that you can hardly chat? Or do you take a short stroll with the pooch and your paunch? Do you look for sympathy because your organs are falling apart after decades of mistreatment? Doesn’t it make sense to take care of your health today the way experts suggest rather than pay for doctors and surgeries later? Would these same principles hold true for Mama Earth?

Voices everywhere are shouting an insistent warning about the whole Planet. A report from the Pentagon in 2004 urged that global warming be raised beyond a scientific debate to a
National security concern, and warned us about rapid climate change, the possibility of global famine and wars over shrinking resources, like clean water. “In the course of the century, water supplies stored in glaciers and snow cover are projected to decline, reducing water availability in regions supplied by meltwater from major mountain ranges, where more than one-sixth of the world population currently lives” (IPCC, 2007). Imagine two billion thirsty and desperate people!

This outcry is not the same as a shaming nudge to clean up your own trash and recycle. No, this is a major hand wringing from all areas of science, an urgent consensus from experts around the world that we must act immediately. As the biggest of polluters, America is receiving strong pressure to change from around the world. Do you listen, really listen, to experts and not to people with political agendas or advertising and media connections? Americans do take a while
to process and form an opinion. We are busy doing important things like soccer, business meetings and fund raising. Our government moves at a snails pace, and our heartland moves even more slowly. Yet, the buzz about global warming is heating up. Just what is all the noise about?
Our atmosphere is holding on to too much CO2, a waste product that comes from our dirty little habits like coal and oil burning. About 75% of the annual increase in atmospheric carbon dioxide is due to the burning of fossil fuels. The remaining 25% happens when forests are converted to rangelands, rangelands to agriculture, and agriculture to urban areas, which have the effect of reducing the net uptake of carbon dioxide (http://globalwarming.sdsu.edu/). Temperature is projected to increase by 1.4 to 5.8 °C this century which is a much more rapid rate of warming than during the 20th century. Heat holding CO2 is bad news but the really uncomfortable part is that severe consequences are happening faster than expected. Factual evidence before our eyes like drowning polar bears and penguins may break our hearts, but still not make us change our light bulbs.
In its most recent (2007) report, the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change estimated that surface temperatures could rise up to 10.4 degrees F over this century, and sea levels could rise nearly six meters. Since scientists underreported or missed the current effects in previous scientific papers, can we assume the actual facts are much worse than reported. If we list the annual death causes to humans or species in a chart, terrorism is way at the bottom and global warming is way at the top. That is the strange disconnect. The tunnel vision politicians spend our tax money like a college girl with Daddy’s credit card and sweep more important issues under the rug for the next generation to solve. If only the people who voted for bad decisions were the only ones to suffer, but never have so many lives been controlled by so few individuals. When global mistakes are made or problems ignored, we all suffer and so will our grandchildren. Yet, we have been warned.

Complacent and egocentric Americans will eventually change light bulbs, buy fuel-efficient vehicles and bury coal emissions. The day will happen when American law says that we must or incur punishment with stiff fines, and probably not one day before then. When the law requires you to replace old refrigerators, furnaces, and boilers with efficient ENERGY STAR models reducing energy consumption by almost two-thirds, then you will. A “carbon tax” (a tax which reflects the real cost of carbon pollution cleanup) will force change because there are expensive penalties to avoid. Governments can reward every citizen who installs solar, wind, along with other smart energy and clean world action by giving substantial tax relief. City governments can give homeowners who plant a shade tree a hefty tax break. The tasks sound easy enough. Is any of this as bad as standing in line with your shoes off every time you fly?

Americans can adapt, we are just so slow and lazy about it. However, a true positive is that nearly every American is a law abiding citizen. We follow the rule of law. Grumble you may, but turn these recommendations of world experts into American law. Then, withhold American dollars to anyone or any country who does not comply. Bingo, cooler Earth!

Tell your grandchildren that you accept personal adult responsibility and that you will change your home and office light bulbs this weekend. Tell them you are listening to the experts. Protect your loved ones and others from an unnecessary Katrina or Tsunami, drought, species extinction or war? Proactively ensure that the beachfront property you promised to leave them remains right where it is today-above the shore.

BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow

Friday, April 06, 2007

Global Warnings Dr. Molly Barrow Expert author of Matchlines relationships self help

Our atmosphere is holding on to too much CO2, a waste product that comes from our dirty little habits like coal and oil burning. About 75% of the annual increase in atmospheric carbon dioxide is due to the burning of fossil fuels. The remaining 25% happens when forests are converted to rangelands, rangelands to agriculture, and agriculture to urban areas, which have the effect of reducing the net uptake of carbon dioxide (http://globalwarming.sdsu.edu/). Temperature is projected to increase by 1.4 to 5.8 °C this century which is a much more rapid rate of warming than during the 20th century. Heat holding CO2 is bad news but the really uncomfortable part is that severe consequences are happening faster than expected. Factual evidence before our eyes like drowning polar bears and penguins may break our hearts, but still not make us change our light bulbs.

In its most recent (2007) report, the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change estimated that surface temperatures could rise up to 10.4 degrees F over this century, and sea levels could rise nearly six meters. Since scientists under reported or missed the current effects in previous scientific papers, can we assume the actual facts are much worse than reported. If we list the annual death to Americans, humans, or species in a chart, terrorism is way at the bottom and global warming is way at the top. That is the strange disconnect. The tunnel vision politicians spend our tax money like a college girl with Daddy’s credit card and sweep more important issues under the rug for the next generation to solve. If only the people who voted for bad decisions were the only ones to suffer, but never have so many lives been controlled by so few individuals. When global mistakes are made or problems ignored, we all suffer and so will our grandchildren. Yet, we have been warned.

Thursday, April 05, 2007

Baltimore Waterfront Barnes and Noble hosts Dr. Molly Barrow author of Matchlines-Relationship Self Help

 
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Dr. Molly Barrow introduced her new book on relationships, Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love, to the historical city of Baltimore at the huge red brick Barnes and Noble housed in a power plant. The renovated waterfront bridges and pavered paths are teaming with joggers, tourists and business people. The balmy spring weather made exploring the waterfront and Baltimore Aquarium pure pleasure. Dr. Barrow was in Baltimore to be photographed and filmed by David Butler of Butler Films for the new Walden University media campaign including print, television commercials and Internet programs. The six camera shoot involved fifty crew members and was a flawless orchestration. Thank you to Walden University, Butler Films, Rachel Holmes, Barnes and Noble and Baltimore.