Dr. Molly Barrow

The Official Dr. Molly Barrow Blog offers educational self help advice about relationships, business, dating, marriage, parenting, teenagers and children, self-esteem, love and romance. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D in psychology and is the author of Matchlines for Singles and the self-esteem adventure series, Malia and Teacup Awesome African Adventure and Malia and Teacup Out on a Limb. Dr. Molly is a relationship and psychology expert host on progressiveradionnetwork.com and television guest.

Monday, January 29, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow listed as Cast Member on IMBd site.

Director Eric Adams and Dr. Molly Barrow at My Suicide film shoot in Los Angeles

Internet Movie Data base lists Dr. Molly Barrow as a cast member on the film, My Suicide. Barrow plays herself, a psychotherapist dealing with teen suicide. Barrow hopes the film will help save lives by suggesting alternatives for teens who might otherwise commit suicide. The film is expected to debut at the Toronto Film Festival.

Director Tom Logan and Dr. Molly Barrow at Film Festival

Lights, sand, action
Los Angeles director Tom Logan watches Lee Perkinson of St. Petersburg and Molly Barrow of Naples perform a scene from "Kramer vs. Kramer" during a workshop at the Marco Island Film Festival. Cheryl Hatch/Staff

The first-ever Marco Island Film Festival brought 30 feature films, 18 short films and 80 student films to the island in October.
Organizers sold several hundred $250 five-day passes for the event, and filmmakers and film buffs alike poured onto the island. Many of the filmmakers participated in panel discussions and question-and-answer sessions about their films, which were heavily attended.
The festival included a tribute to Oscar-winning songwriter Tim Rice, professional workshops and a beach front theater with the screens hung on the side of a panel truck. Crowd estimates for the weekend ran at about 10,000 people.

Saturday, January 20, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow author of Matchlines to Speak and Sign at Barnes and Noble 2/09/07

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Dr. Barrow to Speak and Sign at Barnes and Noble 2/09/07

Dr. Molly Barrow says, “Love Your Partner Their Way.”

Dr. Molly Barrow, licensed mental health counselor, will talk about how to have happier relationships and sign her popular new book “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love” at the Naples Barnes and Noble Bookstore on Friday evening February 9th at 7:00 P.M.
Dr. Barrow welcomes questions from the audience.

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and was filmed recently for the new documentary Ready to Explode- Teen Suicide Prevention. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert on NBC, PBS, KTLA, and in O Magazine (1/07), Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Match.com, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Thursday, January 18, 2007

New American Idol Teaches Kids to Bully


About midway through the first show of American Idol, turning off the television became a good idea. American Idol has been a family favorite program and greatly anticipated each year. However, this year something is very wrong. Producers have put a new emphasis on being mean. The beauty of American Idol is that everyone can identify with wanting something with all your heart. Most of us have admitted, wisely, when we have more aspirations than talent. However, there are millions of people who suffer with birth defects, retardation and mental illness through no fault of their own, who see a distorted version of themselves. In earlier generations, parents taught their children to treat people with compassion and respect, and that only a real louse would make fun of people’s disabilities.

In the brief interviews before their song, American Idol contestants with disabilities seem obvious in their responses. As they sincerely attempt to sing, the judges writhe in ridicule, interject insincere apologies and burst into laughter again. The contestants do not have the talent required to compete, or the reasoning capability to realize they are the brunt of the joke. Must the judges be so cruel to the people with disabilities? Is that what America hungers to see? Has the Mental Health Association or school anti-bullying programs complained because this demonstration of bullying sickens other?

As an apparently autistic young man struggled to make sense of the judges humiliating sarcasm, it seemed clear that the three judges have forgotten the feeling of a personal and professional failure, like obesity, failed businesses and relationships, bulimia, loss of attractiveness, illnesses, addictions, and perhaps, antisocial and other personality disorders. Even if they had not personally experienced such failings, a kindergarten child has more compassion than is shown by this program to people with disabilities. If these contestants are compensated by a paycheck for their humiliation, and it is all just fake and show business, the message delivered to children and adults is that American Idol teaches that it is O.K. to be cruel to everyone. A simple "No, but thank you" would send these kids on their way, disappointed but not damaged.

Perhaps America will boycott this year’s inevitable "Worst of American Idol." The result could be that the producers of American Idol will develop a conscience in their wallet for their treatment of clearly mental disadvantaged hopefuls.

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love.” She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert on NBC, PBS, KTLA, and in O Magazine (1/07), Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Match.com, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/

Saturday, January 13, 2007

Can a food allergy make you depressed? Dr. Molly Barrow Matchlines relationship self help

Do you ever feel utterly hopeless, left out of good times, success, fun and friends? But, if you step back, you have to admit your life is pretty great....so why do you still feel awful? Often we blame our relationship, parents, or friends for our emotional roller coaster. However, have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you just had to eat?

Some people react physically to food allergies with a variety of symptomatic disasters from acne to aches and pains, while others may react emotionally. Maybe that cappucchino is a milky depression pill. Wheat may be a reason to cry. Sugar could leave you crashed on the floor of despondency.

Keep a food diary to record everything you ingest and any subsequent reactions, both physical or mental. Let your doctor see your diary and discover any patterns that might point to a food allergy that lowers your smile and your emotions. Eliminate the culinary culprit and begin to enjoy your life again!

Wednesday, January 10, 2007

My Love is In Crisis Five Ways by Dr Molly Barrow Matchlines Relationship Self Help

What should you do if someone you love is acting very strangely and it is frightening you? How do you start to find help and what will happen next? Here are five warning signs that could upset you and how you might deal with them.

You find a family member acting erratically, violently or verbally abusive. They may spend money foolishly, make ridiculous business deals or act sexually inappropriate. This behavior may have always been present but now it is out of control. Sometimes a person’s physical makeup, stress, diet or trauma can cause brain chemicals to become out of balance. The person may be having a manic episode. Although many people cope with bipolar, depression or mania throughout their lives, a severe manic or depressive episode can be life threatening. Psychiatrists can help balance the brain chemicals with medication over time, often including trial and error with several different kinds of medication. However, if you believe the person is suffering from a serious manic or depressive episode and you can not reach their doctor, you might need to call 911. The paramedics will arrive and help you to calm the person down or take them to the emergency room where they may receive treatment. Ongoing treatment is usually necessary or the episode may reoccur. The person who is severely depressed or manic may also be self-medicating by using illegal substances or alcohol that can worsen the effect of their episode. They need emergency help but often cannot decide for themselves when their behavior has crossed the line. Although extremely difficult to do, a loving family member may need to make an emergency call to protect the person until they find a competent psychiatrist to manage the medication.

Your teenager’s grades are falling and they are spending less and less time with the family. Most teenagers need more alone time than middle school children need. If teens do spend time at home, interacting regularly with their siblings or parents, that is a good sign. However, an abrupt rejection of their family coupled with falling grades may indicate drug use or a problem with depression. Peers influence teens more than their parents, teachers or religious leaders. Teens spend more time listening to their music and television than they do their parents. Be aware of song lyrics and television brainwashing that can be either healthy or disastrous. Consider how to spend more time with your teen. What if you had to forgo the American work ethic that leaves too many children unattended and unsupervised. In Germany, many people take four month vacations from work. If possible, time-share your job with another parent or simply cut back your hours so that you are present, not absent. Some parents employ their teen to help them at work and allow their child to gain valuable work experience. You may have to choose between an inflexible job and your child. Remember they need you now just like when they were young.

A friend or family member seems disoriented and cannot remember names of people or common objects. Forgetfulness is common even in twelve-year-olds but a sudden onset of disorientation or obviously progressing confusion and loss of memory needs medical intervention. Mixing too many medications and slow metabolism can create havoc in one’s mental capacity and is often confused with mental illnesss. Schedule a check-up and make sure the doctor knows the names and quantity of all medications, supplements and over the counter products that they are using.

Your spouse is showing all the signs of a mid-life crisis. They have bought a sports car, sharp new clothes and even started going to the gym excessively, yet they seem emotionally distant from you. As people begin to age, lose a parent or suffer a medical challenge, they may search for a way to feel better again and avoid or take a break from grieving. Perhaps they are thinking about death and are trying to roll back the years. This may make them vulnerable to the attention of another person who seems young and carefree. Do you have years of your life invested with this person, half of your finances and the happiness of your family all dependent on the stability of your marriage? You do have a right to be sure that no one else is encroaching on your territory behind your back. Certainly, every individual has a right to seek out a new spouse after a polite and considerate break-up. However, infidelity can be a disease death warrant. Most people regret the “over forty fling” that destroys their family and never brings them the fountain of youth that seemed so promising and irresistable at first. Protecting your family also means protecting the sanctity of your marriage. Your spouse is looking for attention and maybe just to lighten up the unbearable load that he or she may be carrying. Make sure you are the one whom your spouse finds available and fun. After all, next year, you might be the one who flirts with your trainer just to prove you still “got it!”

An aging parent begins to have altered speech or loss of the ability to speak clearly and coherently. Speech changes are a huge indicator that the body is in trouble and can indicate a physical or mental emergency. Seek medical attention immediately.

Friday, January 05, 2007

Eating Disorder? Put the Brakes on Fear. Dr. Molly Barrow Matchlines Relationship Self Help

Eating disorders are often the result of unbearable fear or anxiety and may escalate to a life threatening level. But how do you put the brakes on your runaway eating disorder? Many eating concerns spring from healthy habits like eliminating your junk food intake and getting daily exercise. When someone begins to have thoughts and behaviors that seem odd, they naturally try to find a reason for their behavior, often attributing their behavior to a comment by an over-zealous parent trying to supervise food, cruel words by other children, or severe mistreatment by a another person. These unfair or horrific behaviors may have hurt your feelings but it is now your own fear that creates the eating disorder. The fear is inside you and it is important to stop blaming others for what you feel. If you are experiencing ongoing abuse you must report it. But if you do not have a clear reason for your eating disorder, then consider the possibility of an organic brain chemical problem that creates a secondary emotional problem. If a child or adult experiences a trauma, injury, adddiction or severe dietary inadequacies, brain chemicals can be jeopardized. When the physical chemistry of the brain is off balance, a person's thoughts may become unbalanced too. Obsessive thoughts, paranoia and compulsions may start out rather small but can quickly escalate to impinge on your relationships, school or work. Sometimes better nutrition, antipsychotic medication or antidepressants may turn down the obsessive voice in your head who is loudly misdirecting you to be self destructive. These meds require supervision by a psychiatrist or physician that is well schooled in psychotropic medicine. If you had a broken leg you would not try to pretend it was whole, yet many people associate shame with an eating disorder and avoid seeking help for what may be a physical problem too. When you improve physically and become healthy, thought patterns can also improve. Author and physician, Dr. David Perlmutter recommends flax oil for a healthy brain, so I take flax oil in my smoothie every morning. But how many people can say they have a daily intake of flax? Adequate nutrition, rest, stress reduction and learning to love yourself unconditionally, along with any necessary medication (or flax oil) from your doctor can help you to find new ways to take back your life. Seek out a therapist to help you develop new coping skills for your fear and anxiety that are far less destructive to your health and lifestyle. Be honest with your doctors about the extent of your fear and how you use the eating disorder to help you cope. Let your doctor determine if a medication might help, expect some experimentation until you find the right one for your unique brain chemistry and ask a therapist to help you make sensible changes to reduce your exposure to anxiety causing events or people. Many eating disorders are a symptom of fear, organic malfunction or anxiety and with concentrated help, you might find freedom from your eating disorder and a brand new world.

Wednesday, January 03, 2007

DR. MOLLY PODCASTS Dr. Molly Barrow Matchlines Relationship Self Help

Do you have relationship or personal questions and need answers quickly?

Dr. Molly Podcasts will cover relationship topics from love to reading body language as well as situations to avoid and advice to help you with your most important decisions. Would you like to have a podcast dedicated to your question? Email Dr. Barrow at drmolly@askdrmolly.com with your questions. Your name and email address will be kept confidential.

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love.” She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert on NBC, PBS, KTLA, and in O Magazine (1/07), Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Match.com, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/