Baltimore Sun Quotes Dr. Molly Barrow Author of Matchline Relationship Self Help About Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes
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Star-crossed, experts say
By Tanika White
Sun Reporter
Originally published November 20, 2006
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes got married Saturday in Italy, with baby Suri in tow, and already relationship and celebrity observers say the union is doomed.The ceremony in a 15th-century castle in Bracciano was a celebrity who's who affair with more than 150 relatives and friends, according to an Associated Press report.
Sadly, there are too many things stacked against them, these experts agree. For your Monday-morning-quarterbacking convenience, we've narrowed the issues to 10
1. Tom is much older than Katie.Toni Coleman, a dating/relationship coach and founder of www.consum-mate.com, sees conflict in the couple's 16-year age difference (he's 44, she turns 28 on Dec. 18)."My gut has always said that she was a young, adoring fan who was smitten with him as a child," Coleman says. "He has been in the role of a kind of father/mentor to her since they began dating, and her identity and autonomy seem to have melded quite a bit into his. As she grows, evolves, matures, there is a strong risk she will begin to outgrow this relationship - and him."
2. Tom is on his third wife."He's walked down the aisle several times, and this is her first," says Diane Forden, editor in chief of Bridal Guide magazine. "It may not be her last."People who are married more than once have increased rates of divorce, experts say."The fact that he's on wedding No. 3 proves that long-term relationships are Mission: Impossible for him," says Suzy Byrne, producer for iVillage.com's entertainment channel, on the Web site's blog The Daily Blabber.
3. Katie and Tom lived together, and had a baby before they got married."Research shows us that people who are living together first and then have a child, then choose to get married, have higher rates of divorce than couples that wait until they get married to have children," says Scott Haltzman, clinical assistant professor at Brown University, and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. "And wait until they're married to live together, for that matter."
4. Their careers compete. He's a megastar with a lot to prove since being dumped by his last movie studio, Paramount Pictures, for "erratic behavior," then taking on the responsibility of running United Artists, with partner Paula Wagner. And Holmes is just beginning."Somebody's going to have to choose to give more to the relationship and the marriage and less to their career or it could be in danger," says Molly Barrow, author of Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love....
Star-crossed, experts say
By Tanika White
Sun Reporter
Originally published November 20, 2006
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes got married Saturday in Italy, with baby Suri in tow, and already relationship and celebrity observers say the union is doomed.The ceremony in a 15th-century castle in Bracciano was a celebrity who's who affair with more than 150 relatives and friends, according to an Associated Press report.
Sadly, there are too many things stacked against them, these experts agree. For your Monday-morning-quarterbacking convenience, we've narrowed the issues to 10
1. Tom is much older than Katie.Toni Coleman, a dating/relationship coach and founder of www.consum-mate.com, sees conflict in the couple's 16-year age difference (he's 44, she turns 28 on Dec. 18)."My gut has always said that she was a young, adoring fan who was smitten with him as a child," Coleman says. "He has been in the role of a kind of father/mentor to her since they began dating, and her identity and autonomy seem to have melded quite a bit into his. As she grows, evolves, matures, there is a strong risk she will begin to outgrow this relationship - and him."
2. Tom is on his third wife."He's walked down the aisle several times, and this is her first," says Diane Forden, editor in chief of Bridal Guide magazine. "It may not be her last."People who are married more than once have increased rates of divorce, experts say."The fact that he's on wedding No. 3 proves that long-term relationships are Mission: Impossible for him," says Suzy Byrne, producer for iVillage.com's entertainment channel, on the Web site's blog The Daily Blabber.
3. Katie and Tom lived together, and had a baby before they got married."Research shows us that people who are living together first and then have a child, then choose to get married, have higher rates of divorce than couples that wait until they get married to have children," says Scott Haltzman, clinical assistant professor at Brown University, and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. "And wait until they're married to live together, for that matter."
4. Their careers compete. He's a megastar with a lot to prove since being dumped by his last movie studio, Paramount Pictures, for "erratic behavior," then taking on the responsibility of running United Artists, with partner Paula Wagner. And Holmes is just beginning."Somebody's going to have to choose to give more to the relationship and the marriage and less to their career or it could be in danger," says Molly Barrow, author of Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love....
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