Rejection? Relationship Expert Author and Radio Television Guest Dr. Molly Barrow Self Help

Is your partner rejecting your attempts to be affectionate? Some people have too much to give and smother a relationship while others starve their relationship. Everyone says the word love, but what does that really mean? Did you know that you have a love capacity that begins with how much love and positive attention you received as a child, along with your natural personality and temperament? However, where you start is not as important as what you do with it. Add to your childhood training any self-help efforts and all your good behavior choices you make that are in your control and will improve your love capacity. “I love you” can only mean your personal capacity to love. Know the difference between your partner’s definition of love and yours, based on your love capacities and learn to balance them. More on this subject in my book, Matchlines and at askdrmolly.com.

BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers and Menstuff. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
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Relationship Expert Author and Telvison Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow Radio Show "Dr. Molly Minute"

The Dr. Molly Minute will be a rapid fire dose of good mental health that will be offered to the top fifty radio stations across the U.S.
Local and national companies can sponsor the program in their area. If you would like to sponsor the Dr. Molly Minute contact media@drmollybarrow.com
For more Dr. Molly self-help please read Matchlines.
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
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Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly at Barnes and Noble Sept 8 Naples

Naples Barnes and Noble talk and book signing will be on September 8, 2006 at 7:00. Come join in the fun and celebration of Dr. Molly Barrow's new book on relationships Matchlines.
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
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To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow

Abused? Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow Advice

Were you a victim of childhood abuse?

When we are children, how we are treated by others helps to define our definition of who we are, our "self." If you were unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong person and suffered abuse when you were a child, that is an event that happened to you. However, it is not your shame - it is the abuser's shame. The abuser bears all the burden of what transpires to a child. A child is innocent and hungry for love, and will take any road that leads to the affection and attention they crave. A child can be manipulated into believing they deserve abuse by older evil or sick adults.
If you are now an adult and still feel the heaviness of your tragic childhood it is time to make a change in your thinking. It is not our place to be revengeful and bitter, but I do I love the concept of Karma where bad deeds boomerang and return to hurt the perpetrator. I also love the idea of the agony that awaits the perpetrator as they attempt to explain and justify his or her cruelty to a higher power. But, sometimes in their lifetime the wicked escape discovery and punishment. The child grows up with often secret, post-traumatic stress from the abuse. Our goal is to minimize the residual damage and start living life fresh. To do this we have to lose the childhood definition of your "self" and replace it with an adult-perspective definition-one that you write. If you finish the sentence, " I am the kind of person who.... wins, loves, thrives, forgives, moves on, protects children, laughs and succeeds" then you begin to remake yourself the way you can be, not how you were. Redefine yourself not by what has been done to you but by the way you choose to live your life today.
More on this subject in my book Matchlines.
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
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Overwhelming Stress by Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow

Stress- we all have it and most of the time we can handle it. But what happens when stressful events begin to overwhelm you? Stress is a silent killer and we need to pay attention. Dangerous stress can be many small events coming at you too quickly for you to recover or one huge event that rocks your world, like losing your job or a loved one. Let us first deal with the small events that begin to mount up and bury you. We have twenty-first century lifestyles that conflict with our caveman bodies that have evolved only slightly from the original form. When the stress begins to build up and you find yourself irritable and short tempered wolfing down caffeine and sugar just to keep going, take a moment to return to a visual image of yourself on a lazy afternoon swaying in a hammock with nothing to do, sipping a cool drink of pure water and breathe out hard the negatives and then breath in deeply into your lower chest and breath out hard the pain, breath again into your belly and breath out the fatigue, and now, once again feel your deep breath all the way into your thigh muscles and breath out the stress, let the stress go. This can be done in the restroom between meetings, at your desk, at a stoplight or as you are feeding your baby. Why this works is as the stress mounts we begin take shallow breaths in a tightly constricted chest that communicates to our body to shut down all repair work because we are in danger. The refreshing deep breaths signals the body that we are out of danger. This is such an effective tool that it is rumored to even help to reset your metabolism. Take three win-win breaths and mentally escape for 30 seconds to de stress your hectic lifestyle. Then make changes that remove the stress for good!
For more life changing info read Matchlines by Dr. Molly.
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow

MATCHLINES FINAL VERSION NOW AVAILABLE Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow

The final edition of Matchlines is now finished, approved and available for order. It's retail price is now $25.95 after August 1, 2006. The book is available at www.askdrmolly.com , through the publisher at www.archebooks.com , www.Amazon.com and Barnes and Noble.
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow

Co-Parenting by Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow

What should you do when your ex tells your child he or she misses them so much.
What should you do if while you and your child are on a lovely vacation and your ex calls your child on the telephone and unloads emotionally all over them?

Innocent comments like "I miss you so much," "Life is no good without you here," "I can not wait for you to get home" or "I am so lonely without you" are normal loving comments from one adult to another adult. But, when an adult says this kind of comment to a child, the child can not filter out exaggeration from reality. The child will hear that their parent needs them and will want to go to them. So much for your vacation!
Children do not realize these "desperate" comments from their parent are misguided attempts to demonstrate parental love. Instead, they become urgent problems for a child, problems the child can not "fix" nor can they cope with adult emotions. Usually the child sulks in confusion or bursts into tears at the acute pain and guilt that such "innocent endearment" words evoke.
So, cut the drama. Say comments like, "Are you having a great time? I went over to my friends and had a great time, too. I love you and can't wait to hear about all the fun you are having." This message allows the child to feel free of the responsibility of caretaking the parent and allows them to have time with both parents without feeling guilty.
Keep your emotional needs to yourself or tell them to an adult and let your children grow up unburdened - especially if they have already been subjected to a divorce. They are your children, not your "friends."

For more-read Dr. Molly's latest book, Matchlines
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
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MY SUICIDE STAR GABE SUNDAY WITH COSTAR RELATIONSHIP EXPERT AUTHOR DR. MOLLY BARROW AT VENICE BEACH

 

BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow

Photo Sundance Film Festival Relationship Author Dr. Molly Barrow, Producer Steve Rubin, Writer Eric Adams, Author Marshall Fine (Star Magazine)

SUNDANCE GEN ART PARTY
Sundance Film Festival
Park City, Utah








Dr. Molly Barrow, (Matchlines)
with writer/producer Eric J. Adams (My Suicide, To Save A Child, Supremacy, Plot Twist, Birdland), film producer/publicist/writer Steven Jay Rubin, (Showtime, Bleacher Bums, The Complete James Bond Encyclopedia, Reel Exposures, James Bond, Combat Films: American Realism) Jordan Adams, (Regenerate film student and film historian), and Marshall Fine, Film/TV Critic, (Bloody Sam: The Life and Films of Sam Peckinpah, Harvey Keitel: The Art of Darkness and the autobiography of John Cassavetes) and writer for Star Magazine.

Communication in a Relationship by Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow author of Matchlines

Lines of Communication

LINEAGE MATTERS
To find harmony in your relationship it is important to know the emotional buttons that lie within your partner silently waiting for you to press. If you have already committed
to someone then use the following techniques that can help you know each
other better. If you are not already in a committed relationship, and your goal is to find a healthy long-term love relationship, then you must politely investigate a potential
partner. Despite your initial feelings of thrill and excitement, and your own willingness to overlook the “little things” during the budding of a new relationship, your future depends on
you. You must examine and compare the emotional heritage of your potential partner’s family, with the way you remember your own life experiences. You must be willing to analyze
family histories in order to benefit from Lovelines and to avoid potential future heartbreak.

Asking the right questions is essential (an entire chapter in Matchlines is dedicated to this.) Take the time to hold intimate and honest conversations early in the relationship. Full disclosure
need not happen in one sitting. Conduct your information gathering conversationally, never like an inquisition. Simply ask your partner about their mom and dad and be curious
about their life when they were ten years old and younger. Learn about their history, behavior patterns and past before you ever consider sleeping with them, marrying them, or
trusting them with your heart. Do not deceive yourself by thinking that a potential partner
has spontaneously healed from early trauma or bad parents. You will pay with tears and a broken heart if you choose someone with a poor capacity to love.

Your investigation need not be a detective-styled interrogation. If you are too heavy-handed about learning about your potential partner, you may scare them away. Early in a
new relationship, people often portray themselves as they want others to see them, putting their best foot forward, not as they truly are. After you hear the first version of a statement, ask a second time, “Is that really what is bothering you?” or “Is that really how it happened?” This gives a person a second chance to tell the truth and is a most effective technique when you
suspect you just heard a little lie. Some partners may react in a hostile and defensive manner and accuse you of prying. Nevertheless, your future, your physical health (think HIV),
or your finances could be trashed by choosing the wrong partner. Therefore, stand your ground and ask all the questions that you want over time as you get to know them better.

Watch out for defensive reactions. If your questions trigger any sort of violent reaction, that is a big red flag. In Matchlines you will find a complete Lovelines Analysis Test that you can fill out first about yourself and then note what you know thus far about your partner. Then if you and your partner feel comfortable enough with each other and are ready to do so, it is your partner’s turn to answer the questions. You will need a lot of information to complete the test, even if you are just doing it by yourself. It might be the culmination of many casual conversations,
in-person, online, or on the phone. As noted previously, your partner may not give this information to you with out an effort. You will need to be considerate and gentle
with your poking into someone’s tender past. You are probably wondering what questions you might ask—questions that will not make your potential partner think they are undergoing an FBI background check and run away from you rather rapidly. Suppose you were to ask the
following questions:
• “Tell me about yourself? Where did you grow up?”
• “What does the word ‘love’ mean to you?”
• “What is your favorite childhood memory? Why?”
• “What do you remember most about your grandparents?”
• “What scared you most when you were a child?”
• “What did you get in trouble for as a kid?”
• “Did you like school?”

These are only a sampling of the endless questions you could ask a new friend, neighbor or lover in order to get to know them better. While some answers may end at a brick wall, others may open up important new areas of discussion. However, be careful. Some questions, asked with the most sincere of intentions can often convey the wrong message. An extreme Shorterline may get angry.

LIE-ABILITY
When you begin this search for truth about someone else, you will undoubtedly face the dilemma that whatever someone tells you about their childhood, it is only their version—or
perception—of the truth. As they say, “history” is never the simple facts, rather it is “stories” told by historians from their perspective—most often, the winners of wars, who get to decide
how they want history to remember them. So keep in mind that any initial confessions you hear from a potential partner can, indeed, be deeply sincere or completely untrustworthy
as your potential mate tries to impress you, or perhaps lie to themselves. It may only be what they have chosen to believe.

Nevertheless, getting to the truth is still the goal, even if you have to “read between the lines” of what someone told you, or compare information with your prospective partner’s
friends and relatives in the normal course of conversations. When coping with emotional trauma, people tend to block out painful memories of their childhood. Layers of defenses and distorted memory bury the truth beneath them. Sometimes, other people in your partner’s life when they were young, who had their own self-protective agenda, may have altered stories to cover an abused person’s vivid childhood memories. Family members, who filtered the truth by denying incest, alcoholism or cruelty, may base these fabricated stories on lies, jealousy or distortions. Intimacy inadequacies are often imperceptible to the one who has them, just like a
diagnosis of depression or mental illness is first observed by others, rather than by the individual who feels perfectly normal. The truth is not easy to find but persevere for your
relationship’s sake.

(Excerpt from Matchlines by Dr. Molly Barrow)
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow

Schedule of Appearances Barnes and Noble Meet The Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow Book Signing

NAPLES FL
Book Signing and Meet the Author at Barnes and Noble on Friday September, 8 2006 at 7:00 P.M. Come celebrate the publishing of MATCHLINES Dr. Molly Barrow's new book!
Click here: Barnes & Noble.com - Matchlines - Dr Molly Barrow - Hardcover to read reader comments.

BRANDON FL
Meet Dr. Molly Barrow at Barnes and Noble Booksellers on September 10, 2006 from 2:00 - 4:00 p.m. Dr. Molly will be signing her latest book Matchlines, an exciting self-help for relationships that will improve the way that you relate to your partner and build your self-esteem. The Brandon Square Barnes and Noble is located at Brandon Square 122 Brandon TownCenter, Brandon FL. Everyone is welcome.

TAMPA FL
Book signing. Friday September 22, 2006 at 7:30. Carrolwood store.

SARASOTA FL
Book Signing. Saturday September 23, 2006 at 2:00.
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow

ASSERTIVENESS THE 4F's by Relationship Expert Author and Television Radio Guest Dr. Molly Barrow author of Matchlines

FOCUS FACT FEELING FUTURE
Did someone push your mute button? Was it your parent’s
strict rules, a boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s control of you,
your buddies’ ridicule, or society’s role for you that make you
afraid to speak up? Learning assertiveness is mandatory because
it makes life easier for everyone.
What is assertiveness? It is not being pushy, bossy or rude.
Assertiveness is what allows your opinion to be heard so that
you can take control of your half of your relationships. How
you handle daily conflict can make or break your relationship.

People typically approach conflict in relationships by expressing
themselves with one of the following ways:
• Aggression
• Assertiveness
• Passive-Aggressive Behavior
• Passivity/Depression
These four levels of communication can define your relationship—
which of the four you use is up to you. The only
one that can actually improve relationships is Assertiveness.
Aggression represents loud or threatening communication
and behavior. Even a raised eyebrow can be threatening if you
believe that person might (on purpose) lose control. Passive aggressive
behavior pretends to be innocent, but it is calculated.
It is aggression gone underground, coupled with
premeditated hostility, covered by a smile. “Oh, did you call
me for dinner? I didn’t hear you,” is so harmless sounding, yet
they did hear you. Their motivation was to get to you, make
you angry or win some battle in their head.
Passivity/Depression is either letting someone walk all
over you, or helplessly ceasing to care.
Good communication is Assertive.
Assertiveness is a sentence that starts with “I want…” or
“I think…” or “I need…” and makes a truthful statement followed
by a description of the action you intend to take.
Remember the concept of assertiveness in four words:
“Focus, Fact, Feeling, Future.” Choose one topic, state your
facts and how you feel about them. Then say exactly what you
are planning to do about it.
Let us look at each of these in detail.

PICKING YOUR BATTLES
The quickest way to become ineffective is to dilute your
message.
Let us say, for instance, that your mission on a particular
day is to have everybody’s shoes picked up from the hallway—
and not by you (again). You announce that desire to
your family, and then you go on to demand that the kitchen
counter be cleaned, the kids stop teasing the dog, and someone
write the thank you cards from Christmas. Soon eyes glaze
over and your message is not being heard. In fact, who can tell
what you really want done? The result is probably shoes left
in the hallway.
If you ask for multiple things all at once, you are definitely
not going to get them, and then you start a pattern of failure.
You are becoming a loser. People stop paying attention.
Spreading your demands all over the map renders you powerless
and ineffective.
Turn your situation around with the four F’s: Focus-Fact-
Feeling-Future, and become a winner.

WHAT MATTERS?
You must decide what is most important to you, right
now. Focus on only one subject like no shoes in the hallway,
create an annoying consequence that you can fulfill, and you
will get results—because your family will learn that you
mean business. They may not value the cleaned hallway or
your comfort, but they will value avoiding your consequence.
Therein resides the secret, the consequence!
The important thing is that you establish a pattern of getting
what you want and especially getting what you need.
“When you ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”
For more on ASSERTIVENESS please read MATCHLINES by Dr. Molly Barrow
BIO:

Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health and Women’s World. Please visit: http://www.askdrmolly.com
http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com/
To read articles by Dr. Molly please visit: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Molly_Barrow