Need A Ride, Friend? Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

It was looking like rain. I was almost on time for an appointment and the traffic was irritatingly slow. Another red light stopped my progress and I used my time management skills by applying my mascara. Something on the sidewalk of the busy street caught my eye. Against a building near the bus stop, a young woman sat with her legs outstretched on the ground. The shadow of the building shielded her slightly from the sun. In her arms, a child slept heavily, the kind of sleep that only children can reach or the very ill. His flawless face was intensely serious and his limbs were limp in oblivious slumber. I glanced at her. She was starring straight ahead and motionless, waiting. The light changed and I flung my mascara back in my bag and began to accelerate.

"I could go back," I thought, "to give her a ride."

The Illinois friendly country girl felt a strong urge to turn her car around. The idea of helping made me feel good and excited and I felt my spirits lift.

How far away does she live I wondered? How far do these buses run? I had no time to spare to make it to my appointment, but I had been late before...for far less noble reasons. I thought about her reaction. Would it make her day if I pulled up in my beautiful car and offered to deliver them safely to their home? She would not have to wait in the sun with her tired toddler. She could save her bus fare money. She could put her child in his bed.

Then, like a knife cutting through my good will, I imagined the consequences. Perhaps, she would feel frightened by a stranger stopping to speak to her. I did not have a car seat for the child and I might get a ticket. She could live very far away or in a dangerous neighborhood. The child might be ill and contagious and I would be exposed. What if I had an accident? They might sue me in spite of my generosity.

Funny, everything that happened took place in only a few moments and was all inside my head. By now, I was several blocks away. Paranoia and precaution overtook my willingness to help. I was blind-sided by the reality of trying to help someone less fortunate than myself and I opted out. Ashamed and angry for my cowardice, I struggled to understand my heartlessness or was it just selfishness?

Certainly, I stayed sensible and safe from potential danger. However, somehow in that moment I became less of whom I wanted to be. In that missed opportunity to be courageous and generous, I became a part of a trend in our litigious society and was repulsed. Because I was clutching so tightly to my property, my security and my personal safety, I could no longer take a risk to help another person.

Is this why people, who are seeking a profound level of spirituality and love for their fellow beings, begin to unshackle themselves from "things?" Things that must be maintained, housed, repaired and guarded. If I had been in an old car, without much to lose and had lived a life of giving instead of too often accumulating perhaps I would have signaled, driven around the block and offered to give a friend a ride. Because the odds were just as good that she would be a friend, as they were that she would be a foe.

When did I lose the trust that people are mostly good? When did I cross over to taking care of me and letting the rest fend for themselves. What happened to my caring Midwestern roots that I love?

We have choices like these all day. Choices to listen to prejudice and escalation of derision and hatred, turn the channel, or walk away. We have choices with our political vote, and with our most effective choice of how we spend our dollar.
Today, I choose to put the brakes on fear and mistrust. There will be greater risk, but life is not meant to be simply long. I will start by finding some trust in my own decisions and maybe my instincts, too.

Next time, I hope I take a chance and ask, "Need a ride, Friend?"



Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official website: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Harvard Business School, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist Menstuff.

Thanksgiving Gratitute Spread Around the World

What can you give to someone who needs help this day? Discover the joy that comes from giving, without the expectation of a payback. Without the kindness of people who were perhaps different looking, who had strange customs or religions, there would not be the United States of America. This Thanksgiving Day take a moment to be a world citizen who embraces all customs, celebrations of a higher power and uniqueness of appearance. World Citizens treat their home and their family well. Your planet and all the inhabitants are worthy of your gratitude, respect and care taking. Imagine the gift of "oneness" overtaking derision and prejudice, and spreading around our planet home. That would be a gift we could all be thankful for receiving.
Happy Thanksgiving.
Dr. Molly


BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

BAD THERAPIST ADVICE! Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

How do you find a competent expert to help you with your relationship? If you pay $200 to $500 an hour to try to save your marriage or relationship, and the advice you receive just does not feel right, do you follow the experts recommendations or do you trust your gut instinct? Many of the biggest names in counseling do not have the wisest advice.

Sometimes therapists can be wrong. If you have read a book or listen to a television program that advises you to take action in a surprising way, run it past your extended family first. Often these expert are interested in sales and ratings so shock value is important. Seek out emotionally supportive friends and relatives who care deeply about your the happiness and welfare. They can help to ground you when your head may be swimming and your belly full of fear when anticipating a break-up or confrontation.

If your loved ones agree on your course of action, you may then want to seek the help of two professional therapists. However, therapists have weaknesses and "issues" just like everyone else. If you touch on a subject that is a hot button for the therapist, he or she might react by personalizing your issue and give you unprofessional advice. If you remind them of their ex, they may not be able to remain unbiased or help you at all.

If you are considering leaving a good spouse with whom you have simply fallen out of love, please take a long time to consider and reconsider any ways to keep an existing relationship together. As you fantasize about greener grass, realize that replacing a partner is more difficult and takes longer than you might expect. Most patients in their seventies and eighties confess they have fallen in and out of love with their spouses of fifty years many times but stayed together and weathered the ups and downs of their relationship.

If you have substance abuse problems you may have difficulty taking any advice or seeing your behavior clearly. This might be the time to trust an expert even if your inclinations are to ignore their "nagging" suggestions. Few relationships can survive a full blown addiction, without strong intervention and help from professionals.

A therapist can only assist a couple. You must ultimately take responsibility for your own mental health and the health of your relationships. Although an unbiased opinion is an important tool, only you and your partner can heal or destroy your relationship.

Wishing you love.
Dr. Molly

BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi Meets Dr. Molly Barrow

I was having an early breakfast at the Inter Continental Hotel in New York several years ago. In the sunny upper floor breakfast room, a group of high powered strategists, all women, set at the next table. I had suffered with recent political decisions and was dismayed by the current voting trends. I stopped by the women's table to offer my services as a psychotherapist, gave them my resume and suggested I could be helpful with campaign strategy.

An impressive woman with steel gray hair and a dark suit turned to me and asked me if I minded answering a question. I replied I was happy to assist. She proudly introduced Nancy Pelosi, then Representative Pelosi... not yet our first woman Speaker of the House. Nancy Pelosi turned to me with her dark intense eyes sparkling, and asked me if I thought Hillary Clinton could be the next President of the United States.

I gulped. This was my opportunity to be a feminist, to be supportive and cast a vote for all women. For every male joke, violence act or domination that had gone too far, I wanted to help even the playing field. I wanted to join the well-heeled city women's discussion, to be part of the shakers and movers, to make a difference in the lives of millions by just one vote, to challenge the stupidity and cronyism in Washington, and to use my mind to defeat cruelty and prejudice. I wanted to say absolutely yes, Hillary will be a great President.

Then, I thought about the men that I had grown up with in Central Illinois. I could imagine them on the cafe stools in coffee shops, at Maid-Rites hamburger counters, and luncheonettes. They spoke of the mines, local gossip and traditions. Voting for a female President would be inconceivable to the kind of men I had known there. As I traveled the country, I saw shunning and ridicule, designed to humiliate and discourage women who struggled for equality from competitive, threatened men who believed in their own entitlement. No matter what these men might say in public, in the private voting booth, they will vote for their own kind, every time.

The women's faces fell as I replied "No, not yet." The undercurrent of chauvinism and prejudice has not left, but merely submerged in older voters, I explained. However, that was five years ago. What about now?

We were all programmed in prejudice before the powerful sixties broke apart old norms and stigmatization. Those who survived the sixties are old enough to take over the responsibility and carry the torch of freedom. But who actually goes to the polls? Not the college kids or Gore would have been a clear winner. Not the angry old hippies or Kerry would have been a shoe-in.

The younger men and women have friends of varied race, sexual preference and gender. The older people still stick to their own, fearful of the unknown. The ones standing in line to vote are the same ones who are sitting on the cafe stools wearing Caterpillar or John Deer caps. They value their votes and they make the effort to vote. But they vote with their mind set from the 1950's and that is how election have been easily manipulated by scaring traditional voters with words like Gays, abortions or scientific cloning.

What about the new kind of man who has emerged in our society? This variety of man was raised by strong women with more freedom who was himself more free to be an original, rather than a carbon copy. He is confident in himself rather than a role, like the man I had married. A man who could openly embrace his child, listen to an intelligent women on television speak about important topics or be proud of a wife who earned big bucks? Could this consciousness-raised gentle man vote for a woman? Does he vote?

If women and gentle men voted what happened to Kerry when he ran for office? He was a loving Dad, his wife was a dynamic leader and role model, but he lost, even with the following statistics:
Kerry-Edwards is preferred over Bush-Cheney among voters 18-29 years of age (59%-37%); 65 and older (49%-46%); women (52%- 42%); and singles (62%-26%).

Bush-Cheney is favored among voters 50-64 years of age (49%-46%); men (50%-43%); and married couples (53%-42%). (Zogby.com). Baby boomer men showed their muscle in the 2004 election, and voted for wise cracking George Bush, who would be cool to have a beer with. They voted for their own kind, one of the boys. Now our country is struggling and needs a grown-up, a leader.

What will happen in this rapidly approaching election in 2008?

"While she is winning wide support in nationwide samples among Democrats in the race for their party's presidential nomination, half of likely voters nationwide said they would never vote for New York Sen. Hillary Clinton, a new Zogby Interactive poll shows... reported survey of 9,718 likely voters nationwide showed that 50% said Clinton would never get their presidential vote. This is up from 46% who said they could never vote for Clinton in a Zogby International telephone survey conducted in early March. Older voters are most resistant to Clinton—59% of those age 65 and older said they would never vote for the New York senator, but she is much more acceptable to younger voters: 42% of those age 18-29 said they would never vote for Clinton for President." http://bbsnews.net/article.php/20071021131317357

Over half of the 18-29 year-olds would vote for Hillary... but do they vote? Do they get up early in the morning, stand in wet and snow for hours to make their one vote. Young people made a lot of noise last election, but they did not "turn out" on election day when it mattered. Older voters do "turn out" and 59% say they are not leaning toward Hillary.

Historically, people do exactly what they did last time and will do again next time. What can sway the people out of their comfort zone into a new way of thinking? Perhaps it is too late for heavily brain washed people who are fifty-five and older. After eight years of tortuous political fiasco and the deaths of so many people will likely voters elect another Baby boomer male and cling to the perception of what an American president looks like or can we do something new, fresh and perhaps, smart?

Are there enough people who are younger and less programmed to escape the belief that Presidents are white males because.... they just are? And this time, will they actually take responsibility as an American and vote?

I have changed since Representative Pelosi and I spoke. Today, I think it is possible for the United States to elect an African American, a Latino, or a woman. We all may have evolved enough to look past the outside color and gender of a contender for the most powerful position in the world and see instead the capability and leadership within the person.

I think it would please Nancy if she knew that she was talking to a Baby boomer who loves Maid Rites and has a Caterpillar cap and could vote for any one of them.

Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official website: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Harvard Business School, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist Menstuff.

People Around the World Are Taking the Dr. Molly Barrow Compatibility Test

Match Lines Compatibility Test for Singles and Couples is helping people find true love and see their dating expertise. Marriage partners and dating singles can gain so much information from just 15 minutes of answering questions about their dating and life behavior.
Each time a new person takes the test and I am notified that someone has taken the test my heart warms to know that they received the best information I have to give. Although I can not see the results or their answers, I smile thinking they see relationships in a brand new way. Thank you to people all over the world who visit http://wwww.drmollybarrow.com and take the test. I hope others will benefit from the experience.

BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Positive or Negative Interactions? Relationship expert Dr Molly Barrow

Life is a process and often pretty hard on us. We can lose lovers, fail as sexual partners, lie to our spouse or just stop loving someone we thought we would love forever. When you get slammed with a job loss, illness, or disillusionment what is the right step to take to pull yourself out of a tailspin. When I first heard people suggest we had energy fields, I starred in disbelief. They spoke about maintaining a positive energy field and that would attract positive energy to you. At different times in our life we are so depressed and desperate that we will try anything to get ourselves out of a slump. So why not good vibe ourselves and our situation? I do not know what power positive thinking has on energy fields but every living thing gives off energy as life force. Every time that you interact with another person, no matter how hateful they may be, if you project a powerful positive energy you have a sliver of chance to influence the situation in a positive way. If you choose instead to contribute a bad attitude, unkind words and negativity, then you definitely increase the odds that things will get worse. What sounds like the smart move to you?
Wishing you love, happiness, and positive "energy" always.


BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Dr. Molly Barrow Hodges University Advisory Board

 

Dr. Molly Barrow, and Dr. Elsa Rogers, Chair of Applied Psychology and Liberal Arts attend the Hodges University Advisory Board Meeting on October 17, 2007 in Ft. Myers, Florida. Dr. Molly Barrow is a newly appointed University Advisory Board Member and author of the new book on relationships, Matchlines and Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships at www.drmollybarrow.com, a web site to analyze dating and relationship skills.






BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.
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Fight Prejudice Micro-Definitions! Relationship Author Dr. Molly Barrow

What if you were born into a prejudice family? When you were very young you may have heard jokes or negative comments about people and thus learned to group others, who were different from yourself, into a micro-definition. Grouping people together is a practice that helps us to understand differences and assume generalities. Prejudice thrives on such micro-definitions and limited thinking. Any statement that begins with Blacks are..., Jewish people always..., Russian deals never..., Gays often...or White men usually...screams prejudice to your listener.

However, prejudice statements can cost you business clients, good friends, co-worker respect and future deals. Prejudice lowers societies as a whole and raises no one. In this world of travel and change any definitive statement about a set of people can no longer have much truth or validity. Ask yourself if your preacher is racist declaring that only your denomination is allowed into Heaven and question how can they know? Is your school sexist allowing special treatment or funds for male footballers while ignoring the girl's teams? Are Whites promoted before people with more pigment in their skin?

Most prejudice begins in young children as early as pre-school age from opinions overheard from parents. Borrowed bad habits from our parents can be eliminated. If your mind is operating in a default mode you may be saying or doing things that scream, "I am a stupid, prejudice fool." If each time you tell a joke or make a comment, you are making someone a victim, then you may want to make a concerted effort to change old inherited bad habits. If you stop and take a good look at your behavior, are you confident and open to other very different people or is your self esteem so low that you treat others badly, just to try to feel better about yourself?

The world is shrinking and families are blending into many races, beliefs and behaviors. A supremacy attitude is ridiculous because your group has dwindled to just one - you, the individual. See if you can begin to relate to the rest of the world as individuals with dreams, talent and hopes. There is really only one group left ...all of us.

BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Milk Friend or Foe? Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

If your child has frequent emotional swings, an upset stomach, skin rashes or trouble breathing, you may want to take a hard look at milk and discuss with your doctor if a diet change would help. The doctors in my family came out strongly against cow milk in the 1950's and advocated elimination of all dairy products from our diet.

However, eliminating milk from your diet is incredibly difficult as milk is used in so many recipes, even in some canned tuna. Fortunately, since 2006 labels are required to reveal milk products in all food. But according to the following article, a nursing infant can even react to milk that the mother drinks!

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/nutrition_fit/nutrition/milk_allergy_diet.html

As you try to do the best that you can for yourself and your children, do not get too discouraged. Perhaps, getting back to natural is the direct route to mental and physical health.


BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Depressed? Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

Are you depressed and can't seem to shake it off? Find a spot of sunshine and take out a pen and paper. On one side of the paper list why you are feeling down. Even the little annoying ones that may seem insignificant by themselves but definitely contribute to your stormy emotions. Get it all out - no matter how long the list is. When you do not have to hide or defend your emotions from anyone, then somehow you feel better when you see that you do indeed have many good reasons to feel down. Now, make the other side of the paper a list of what you are thankful for; find ways that you are blessed and fortunate. Keep writing until your blessings list is longer than your "problem" side. Take a deep breath and bask in the warmth of the sun for a moment. There is no denying we all have depressing aspects to our daily lives, but we can make a shift if we focus on what we have going for us instead of what is going wrong. We may still have the problems but with a cup-half-full attitude, we can conquer anything.

BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.