Spouse Lost Their Job? Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

When your spouse tells you that he has lost his job, you may feel like reacting with desperate panic. However, this is a time to consider the enormous pressure on your spouse more than your own feelings. Losing a job is a very serious blow, especially for a man or the "breadwinner." Many men have their self worth tied closely to their ability to work and they may be more depressed than you can imagine. Some men can become so distraught about their job loss that may even consider suicide.

Even if you feel like screaming, let your spouse have a few days to get things in perspective. At first, when something bad happens, it is really hard to see a rainbow behind that dark cloud. Remember that one can always find a better job and a change is usually for the best.

Let your spouse hear and know that as a team you will find a solution and that you love them jobless as much as you did when they were employed. You may not feel it but it is a gift that you can give when your loved one is vulnerable and feeling too fragile to go on. They are tattered and beaten up by what happen and you can throw them a lifeline. Trust that they will do their best to right the situation as soon as they can.

Besides, you can always yell in a few days when they are feeling better. If by then the situation has improved, perhaps you won't need to get upset at all.


BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.