Competition Win or Lose. Relationship expert author Dr. Molly Barrow

How do you react to competition? Do you need the trophy? Often when we are judged by others, a recognition or monetary prize is the reward. Sometimes when we give our very best effort, the competition may still do a better job. Perhaps they are more experienced, more talented, more attractive, or just have natural abilities. What is important is how you react to finishing second. Some people take their game and go home. They quit, give up because they are beaten. Perfectionism that requires you to be number one or not play at all insures that you will eventually lose everything to another stronger player. If pleasing others is your motivation than only one can win and the rest will lose.

Whereas other competitive people are energised by a defeat, determined to observe, learn, practice and be better. When the process of becoming a top contender and excellent at what you do is your reward than how can you ever lose? This seems the smarter and more pleasurable way to win.
Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Author’s Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Harvard Business School, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers, Hitched Magazine and Menstuff. Official website: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Dr. Molly Barrow Radio: http://www.blogtalkradio.com



Love and healthy relationship advice for pre-marital, marriage, dating and business relationships. Introducing the new relationship compatibility test by psychology expert Dr. Molly Barrow on July 15, 2007.