Dr. Molly Barrow

The Official Dr. Molly Barrow Blog offers educational self help advice about relationships, business, dating, marriage, parenting, teenagers and children, self-esteem, love and romance. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D in psychology and is the author of Matchlines for Singles and the self-esteem adventure series, Malia and Teacup Awesome African Adventure and Malia and Teacup Out on a Limb. Dr. Molly is a relationship and psychology expert host on progressiveradionnetwork.com and television guest.

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Low self Esteem? Your job to fix it. Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

Low self esteem in a relationship can make interaction with a partner become skewed and so out of balance that you drive your partner nuts, so annoyed and frustrated that they lose control, become verbally abusive, violent or simply walk out the door. How can that be? You are the one who is hurting inside and yet your partner gets mad at you, and hurts your feeling even more. Think of this scenario. Your partner is ready to take a long walk for exercise, you want to come along but after about a few yards you sit down on the ground announcing that you can go no farther, you are afraid and can not walk well enough. If your partner adores you they will volunteer to carry you - for awhile. But then you get heavy and become a burden, even ruining the good time your partner had imagined. Low self esteem is a result of poor parenting, abuse, neglect or depreciating self talk. Your low self esteem is maybe not your fault. In a relationship you are obligated to learn how to walk well with your partner without emotional melt downs. Are you throwing in the towel because you predict that you will probably fail anyway? Watch for my new download on self esteem on http://www.drmollybarrow.com and get the help and teaching products you and your partner need to walk off into the sunset together.

Monday, July 30, 2007

Criticism? No comment. Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

Sometimes a sharp comment or criticism does not require a defense or response. Use this technique only occasionally because too much passivity is not good for the relationship. If you have had a series of blow-ups, try this different approach. When you have been unfairly scolded, an effective solution is to allow the person doing the criticizing to live with their own words, without editing or reaction by you. That way your attacker cannot blame you for escalating the fight. You can continue your work or relaxation, even if your partner is looking for an argument. Your attacker may even come around with an apology... far more quickly then if you join him or her in a huge row.

Thursday, July 19, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow and Rotary Club

Dr. Molly Barrow has been invited by Marcus Zillman, www.virtualprivatelibrary.com, www.internetspeaker.net) to be the keynote speaker for the Rotary Club in Naples, FL at the prestigious Collier Athletic Club on Thursday, July 19th at 6:00 p.m. Dr. Barrow will speak on the psychological theory of her book Matchlines and introduce her new web site and relationship test (www.drmollybarrow.com).

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Only Your Religion? Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

What defines a place of worship? Can a field of bright yellow flowers provide a spiritual connection as easily as a building made by man? I have attended many churches and temples, celebrated with Muslim friends in their homes and was awe struck at a Hindu wedding where the groom rode up on a gloriously painted elephant silhouetted by the setting sun, one of my favorite visual memories. In an open garden, I have sent prayers out to the universe hoping for a miracle to spare a loved one's life. As a little child I stood in the rain on Easter Sunday to be blessed by Papa Giovanni on Easter Sunday, my hand held tightly by my father in the cheering throng beneath the elaborate Vatican balcony. When I was a teenager I was scolded loudly in Italian by a Vatican Cardinal as I gazed at The Pieta by Michelangelo. Apparently, he felt my skirt was too short even though I had properly covered my head with a scarf. Are these religious experiences or spiritual experiences? Do we need someone else to tell us how to worship? What is the purpose of religion?

Priceless treasures for thousands of years continue to accumulate in the building basements of religious leaders workplaces. Millions of dollars pass through religious hands. Yet, the poverty of most of the world remains breathtakingly horrible. Is religion a business and intended to grow financial or should each year the coffers be emptied to help the downtrodden and sick.

Today the Pope of the Catholic Church reiterated his stance that only his church was a real church thus alienating millions of devout God worshipers. I have heard the advertisement that only Coca Cola is the real thing, too. God's word is the justification for many ills that have erupted in our history. Can sane people step away from an alter long enough to see that "religion" has many elements of big business like separatism and competition for followers. Where is the holy vision that has been replaced by a philosophy of "us against them." Isn't that war? How can there be so many people who believe their God is the only real version and proudly justify killing those people who disagree? Who's version of God is that? Not mine.

We have ancient tablets, scrolls and stories that were written by early men that dictate the correct behavior for their society. Modern times requires a clarifying look at behavior in ourselves that promotes prejudice or superiority over the next guy as we mentally create a personification of our personal definition of God. Blind allegience to words written by people you do not know, many of whom lead strange lives of machochism or duplicity presenting themselves as pious, while using their power to inflict harm on others.

When does a house of worship become big business and treat devotees like club members? I asked a church I was attending to help a pregnant homeless girl and was asked "Is she a member of our church?" Because the girl was not, there was little the woman said could be done. The church put a new addition on their building that year and I never went back.

When you gather together to worship, perhaps it is best to force no one to go with you and be prepared to make room for anyone who does, accepting that your version of God is unique to you and for you.

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Leading the way to LIVE EARTH practices Dr. Molly Barrow

I changed my light bulbs at home and at the office and bought recycled paper towels and facial tissue. I unplugged my TV and stereo in my bedroom to reduce electro magnetic noise and energy waste while I sleep. My office partner is recycling our office paper. My daughter is calling the city to get our recycle bin dropped off. Please join me and share what you and your family are doing to keep the world cool.
Dr. Molly

Live Earth: Our work begins now.

Dear Friend,

Thank you! Because of your hard work, millions of personal commitments have been made via the Web and SMS in 178 countries and 35 territories around the world. And our concert was not limited to 7 venues, but instead took place at parties and events in more than 10,000 homes and communities.

A decade from now, when people look back on Live Earth, what they will remember isn't what happened during the show -- instead my hope is they remember what happened after. More than 2 billion of us joined together on 7.7.07 and with one voice demanded an end to the climate crisis. We now have the responsibility to carry this movement forward and force our leaders to take action.

We need to take the first step today and make sure every single person possible joins us. That's why, right now, I need you to email five of your friends. Ask them to sign the Live Earth Pledge by visiting:

www.liveearthpledge.org

All of the actions we take from here on out to solve the climate crisis will be based on a simple premise: our home, Earth, is in danger. We don't risk destroying the planet, but instead risk making it inhospitable for human beings.

We have put so much carbon dioxide into the atmosphere that we have changed the heat balance between Earth and the Sun. And if we don't stop soon, the average temperature will increase to levels that will end the favorable climate balance on which our civilization depends.

The world must come together and direct our governments to take on a global challenge. Our leadership is a precondition for success.

We need to demonstrate that we have reached the tipping point where political will demands our representatives take action to solve the climate crisis. That's why it's so vital that millions of people sign the Live Earth Pledge.

Ask five of your friends to sign the Live Earth pledge today by visiting:

www.liveearthpledge.org

The climate crisis offers us the chance to experience what few generations in history have had the privilege of experiencing: a mission; a compelling moral purpose; a shared cause; and the thrill of being forced by circumstances to put aside the pettiness and conflict of politics and to embrace a genuine moral and spiritual challenge.

Please email five of your friends right now. Ask them to join us in this cause and sign the Live Earth Pledge today by visiting:

www.liveearthpledge.org

Our work begins now.

Thank you,

Al Gore

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Plant a Jatropha Tree. Dr. Molly Barrow, Relationship Expert

There is an outdoor seating area at Food and Thought, the 100% organic food restaurant where I frequently eat lunch. The hot Florida sun is reduced to tiny flickering lights by the densely planted Jatropha trees that keep the area cool and protected. With their light trunks and lime leaves they remind me of a beech tree. The tiny flowers fall like rain on the ground below and are now just swept away but is their "gold in them-their seeds?" Already a staple in India and other countries the Jatropha can produce a thousand gallons of bio diesel fuel and remove four metric tons of carbon dioxide from the air for each acre of trees (Naples Daily News,7/11/2007). Turning the tree into a national renewable fuel source is brilliant thinking and needs your support. Plant one today.

Monday, July 09, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow recommends LIVE EARTH

Live Earth: The Movement for a Climate in Crisis

Millions of people attended the concerts and the 10,000+ "Friends of Live Earth" events and house parties in 195 countries. Millions of people watched or heard the event online, on TV, or on the radio. Millions pledged to change their own actions and hold our leadership accountable.

Be a part of an incredible worldwide movement - Live Earth was the moment when the world came together to demand solutions to the climate crisis. You can help us spread the word - please forward this email to five of your friends and ask them to sign onto the Live Earth Pledge at:
www.liveearthpledge.org

Together we will solve the climate crisis.


You can see highlights and songs from all the concerts online at www.LiveEarth.msn.com. Create your own playlists and share with friends!


A Global Campaign


The Live Earth concerts are the start of a worldwide campaign to solve the climate crisis. Our partners The Alliance for Climate Protection, I Count, The Climate Group, and Avaaz (as well as WWF Australia and Climate Action Partnership in South Africa) will be working together to make sure we all live up to our commitments - in our personal lives and globally. You'll hear more soon from these partners and from Live Earth about what we all can do to keep spreading the Live Earth message.


Pass it on!

Forward your friends a Live Earth text message or this email and inspire them to join the movement to combat the climate crisis.

Sunday, July 08, 2007

Matchlines gives the best relationship advice Dr. Barrow has to offer. Matchlines is now available on line at www. askdrmolly.com, Amazon.com, booksamillion.com, borders.com and at Barnes and Noble bookstore.



Have you ever wondered...

Why my love relationship often hurts so much and how to make it stop? Why am I left alone after giving so much and trying so hard? Why did my partner/spouse cheat on me? Why does my heart end up broken again and again? How can I repair my self-esteem? Who is really right for me--and how will I know?

Knowing your Matchline empowers you to find the match that's right for you! Whether you are in an existing relationship that needs improving, or are looking for the life-partner who will finally meet your needs, let Dr. Molly help you understand the secret of your Matchline.







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Dr. Molly Barrow Speaker for University Alumni Event

E. Delores De Windt, Alumni Relations Marketing Specialist of Walden University, has booked Dr. Molly Barrow as a keynote speaker for the University Alumni Chapter Event on Wednesday, September 12 in Detroit, Michigan. Dr. Barrow will discuss her experience at Walden, her new compatibility test and how she has used her research in her new book Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love. Walden University purchased 100 copies of "Matchlines" for the event and Dr. Barrow will sign Matchlines for the attendees.

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Dr. Molly Barrow, author of Matchlines, invited on Borders Book Tour




Crystal Chancellor, District Marketing Manager of BORDERS Book Stores has invited Dr. Molly Barrow on a Borders Southwest Florida Book Tour this August. Dr. Barrow has her doctorate in clinical psychology and is the author of a new book called Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love (Archebooks Publishing).

The lecture and book signing tour will include relationship themes like How to Improve Your Relationship and Finding & Keeping your Perfect Mate. The tour begins in the following cities:
Sarasota -- Thursday, August 23 @ 7pm
Ft. Myers -- Saturday, August 25 @ 4pm
Naples -- Sunday, August 26 @ 4pm

More information on Dr. Barrow's tour can be found on the Borders website (http://www.bordersstorers.com) & store newsletters & flyers, as well as in upcoming releases to the media in each city. Dr. Barrow will take questions from the audience insuring a lively discussion and introduce her new Match Line relationship test on her web site http://www.drmollybarrow.com

Wednesday, July 04, 2007

Unconditional Love of Country Dr. Molly Barrow relationship expert

The Forth of July.

Cookouts, family gatherings, a parade, swimming on a hot summer day, and fireworks (in the sky, not in the hands of children). Take time to celebrate the joy of being an American. Even if the political situation is strained and our country is at war, be proud you live in a free country. Remember the men and women who gave their lives to make this country free, safe and thriving. Our government dictates that the majority rules. Even if you are chafing from current decisions that appear incomprehensible or self serving, our government is working as it was designed. So raise up your eyes to the beautiful fireworks show and feel the thrill and emotion while you recall the importance of patriotism. You may not like her behavior right now but you still love her. America has had rough times before yet she always seems to stride forward to find a more balanced and progressive equality.




Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, “Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love,” ISBN 159507158X. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Author’s Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women’s Health, Harvard Business School, Women’s World and Shrink About This columnist for Scripps newspapers, Hitched Magazine and Menstuff. Official website: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Dr. Molly Barrow Radio: http://www.blogtalkradio.com Love and healthy relationship advice for pre-marital, marriage, dating and business relationships. Introducing the new relationship compatibility test by psychology expert Dr. Molly Barrow on July 15, 2007.